The real ultimate guide to dating really only needs one sentence: be yourself...the good the bad and the ugly...and if he doesnt dig it or if you are not feeling him, move on. That's it. That's all. No trying to be a specific something or pretending to be who you are not. No settling for an ass hat just to have a…

You better WERK! This is what I'm talking 'bout!!!

Part of what men who threaten to rape need is to hear other men saying it's not okay. To not be supported by a crowd when they throw something like that out there (I really liked seeing men in the crowd doing the across-the-throat "cut it out" gesture). It's not about protecting the little wimmins, it's about standing…

I know, wasn't the audience's reaction the heartwarmingest?? Surprised hell out of me, but pleasantly so. It raises one's faith in humanity by 2 notches to think that the That's Not OK message has fiiiiinally started to sink in— into one of the cultures where it is needed most.

That is how I see it. I just think of Eartha Kitt and how she was blackballed after her comments at the white house and it makes me a little worried. Of course, in a perfect world we could all stand up and speak out but.....

I can actually see both sides of this debate amongst us. On one hand, you want a heavy hitter like Dana to stand up & be a visible and powerful Black LGBT. Yet, history has proven time and time again that being cast out from your community while not truly being given a damn about by white folks can wear down the…

Racist comments are unacceptable, as are sexist ones. This should go without saying.

A snow day in fucking college?

unlike Hot 97 DJ Mister Cee's muddled self-perception

You know what? Queen Latifah's sexuality isn't there for you to speculate about. This is NOT HELPING. It's none of your Damn business.

This article is irking me and I can't quite explain why. Her sexuality is nobodies business and she shouldn't be made to feel guilty for not waving any flag about it. You gotta understand that she is a plus sized black woman who has been acting in hollywood for decades now. She has been one of the lucky ones who has…

It's definitely true that it's far worse for women, who unlike men rarely have the benefit of meaty comedy or "character work" available (and even that pales to how racist defs of beauty are used against actresses of color) but I have to say that looks-based casting is so insidious it even affects men, so i doubt it's…

Hey, how about we not speculate on the sexuality of someone who clearly isn't ready/willing to talk about it?

Uh huh, all those incredibly unattractive women in Bridesmaids ...

This should be the indoctrination video. It condenses into a short, very watchable format so many of Tom's best qualities.

*sigh*...tell em', Paul Mooney:

According to Baker, testimony from Daisy and the rape kit wasn't enough evidence, which is also why her office didn't try to charge Barnett with sexual assault. "Without that video, there is no charge there," she said, referring to a tape that once apparently existed but has since been deleted of Barnett having sex…

Whenever somebody starts derailing a discussion about beauty privilege, I want to ask them "Okay, would you rather be ugly then?"

It's funny how any thread about privilege related to race or size will turn into "it's so hard being white" or "it's so hard being thin."

This. No sympathy from my end. I can't speak for ALL pretty girls. But the ones I know have endured the recession by 1) skating on their looks at jobs they don't perform well at (because look at them! Why do they need to perform?) 2) Performing well, but getting laid off, only to get hired faster than any Average Amy…