Well, every criminal offense has an element of intent. If for some reason, you don't know having sex with an unconscious person is rape, it's still rape, but you have to be aware the person is unconscious.

Yes. The surveys that get to the "1 in 5" statistics include any kind of non-consensual sexual touching, unwanted attempts at kissing, and often verbal harassment. Forced sex or attempted forced-sex is much less common.

Less than 2% of men are in prison or under corrections supervision. Rape is a crime that carries 20 years in prison in many states. You really think that 8% of men are rapists? That would mean a much larger percentage of men rape than drive drunk, get arrested for drug offenses or get in fistfights.

FBI crime data estimates that there are about 16000 total rapes per year in the United States. Do you really think that there are 100,000 rapes happening on college campuses alone?

1. If you are shitty to people, people are likely to be shitty back to you. It sounds like she got really nasty with a couple of dudes who just wanted to play with a dog. If you are triggered by hostility or confrontation, you shouldn't go around being hostile and confronting people.

My grandmother is eighty-eight years old, and she always wants to special-order the salad without the bacon or with sauce/dressing on the side, or something like that.

They are looking for an excuse not to tip.

A proper margarita is two shots of tequila, an ounce of lime juice and a shot of orange liqueur (preferably Cointreau or Grand Marnier, but generic triple sec in a cheap one), served over ice. A frozen margarita is the same thing, but you put it in a blender with the ice, instead of serving it over ice cubes. A…

Apparently, he stopped when he saw she was crying. It sounds like he thought she was complaining, but letting him do it, until he realized she was really upset.

Well, she alleges a very violent attack that really doesn't fit with any "gray rape" or ambiguous consent analogies. I really don't see how her friendly, flirty messages two days later are consistent with her having just been the victim of the brutal assault she now alleges.

I mean, the way it's described, these people are in a consensual relationship for a year. There is no history of violence between them.

I don't see how you can just "go ahead" with an unconsenting person who is not unconscious or incapacitated. If there's a level of communication and trust in a long-term relationship, and you adamantly don't want the sex to happen, I really don't think it's that difficult to shut it down.

Adnan Syed had never done anything violent before. There wasn't much evidence that he was angry at his ex-girlfriend Hae Minh Lee. After she was murdered, Adnan's weed dealer Jay led police to Hae's abandoned car and claimed he had helped Adnan dispose of the body.

1. Emma Sulkowicz claims he became violent in the midst of a consensual sexual encounter, and hit her, choked her and forcibly raped her anally. Nungesser says the sex was consensual. She went through a full campus adjudication and Nungesser was found "not responsible."

Look, I don't know what kind of force you're talking about. You said he did not take your "no" seriously.

Some girl who didn't want him living in the ADP house after Sulkowicz accused him said he tried to kiss her at a party one time, and his freshman girlfriend, who had a history of depression, said he'd been "emotionally abusive."

I think men should take boundaries extremely seriously and make sure consent is enthusiastic and unambiguous with a new partner.

I don't think the situation you describe is rape. I suspect that it's extremely common for one partner in a long-term relationship to attempt to initiate sex, for the other partner to not be in the mood, and for the initiating partner to persist in requests or advances, to the point where the other partner relents or…

She claims that he choked and hit her and forcibly raped her anally. These are all facts she alleges.

Sulkowicz says Nungesser held her down and forcibly anally raped her. She doesn't claim something ambiguous.