the problem with this mentality is that it places the onus on the person being harmed to behave like an adult, instead of the people intending offense/harm. like, it’s effective, sure, but it didn’t do shit for me as a kid when i was vividly suicidal from bullying.

Let me go back in time to the car full of guys who slowed down when I was walking home from the gym and started yelling that I was a dyke and should be raped because I just needed a dick and be the better person instead of telling them to fuck off because I’d already called the cops. I really shit the bed on that one,…

You wanna know how to succeed in life? Quit giving people the satisfaction of your reaction. Treat everyone you meet with kindness no matter how much they’ve wronged you. Be the bigger person.

I tried that, funny thing is being a door mat isn’t fun. If you are nice to assholes they don’t go, oh gosh, I’m an asshole, so sorry!’ they keep right on being an asshole until you get so upset or angry that you crack.

I think what you mean is, you miss the days when you would say that and no one would call you an asshole for it.

Did somebody cut your tongue out? Why can’t you say it anymore?