Your insight and experience in this is appreciated. Truly. I was curious what FtM experience might be in this — and I’ve read a couple of articles to this issue and others related. And I always appreciate hearing it.

Don’t you think your husband might be more likely to shoulder more of the “emotional work” if your child were male? Also, maybe your daughter just happens to hew closer to your personality and way of seeing the world?

Sounds like you have a reasonably good division of labor that works for your relationship. You’re very lucky!

Actually, the data doesn’t support the idea that men do as much physical caretaking as women do:
http://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/12/ups…

Thirding this. I am so glad to be single. I saw mum do this work for Dad and our family got *years* to no avail or recognition (even my own, to my shame) unless she dropped the ball or didn’t, at which point it was her fault for not doing a “simple” thing.

::raising hand:: That’s pretty much it. I think a service that brings you stuff when you’re sick would cover that, seriously. I’m so happy as a single person. The husband of a friend thinks there is something wrong with me. Of course, he doesn’t see how my friend regularly does pretty much everything for him. It’s…

Same here. I’m very happy with no relationship. I simply couldn’t be a grown person’s mother. The constant need for attention and validation, while castigating me for ANYTHING that I needed, was just too much. He makes another woman miserable now (really, she’s miserable).

As a part of adulting I’m trying to work on how bad I am at doing the emotional work. I am a cis-het woman, and I have not done the majority of the emotional work in any of my relationships. And, I don’t mean just sexual relationships, but friendships and acquaintanceships as well.

Guess you missed the part where the article says that’s meant as a joke. But sarcasm isn’t for everyone.

You were complaining about the “emotional strain” put on men bc they don't feel they have societal approval to display emotions. I'm just saying - time and place, dude.

Here’s a prime example of what this article is about. We’re all here to read about and discuss the topic of women’s emotional labor. There have been several articles on men’s emotional issues and how we can better ensure that men and boys are allowed a full range of human emotion. And yet here is a man derailing one…

I’m sorry - are you telling women they need to be more sensitive to expectations put on men, and their needs, on a post that’s literally about women being unfairly required to shoulder the burden of men’s needs, and their family’s needs, without reciprocation?

I find men to be very emotional, it is simply not called “being emotional” when they flip out and get angry. The male emotional reaction to things is considered completely rational. The weird, paranoid fragility of masculinity is also not called an emotional reaction, when it clearly is. On top of that, women are not…

Emotional expectations for men are created by men. Emotional expectations for women are also created by men. Feminists are working on this, but if you want to see change, women aren’t the people you need to snark at.

They do, well spotted. I wouldn’t say this is nonsense at all. This is what feminism is trying to help. Since emotions are seen as “girly” and “unmasculine”, men suffer. If we break down this gender divide and let boys know it’s okay to feel things then that would be awesome.

Articles like this reaffirm my choice of spinsterhood. What’s the point of a partnership if I’m still doing most, if not all, of the work. I have outlets (and toys) for sex. Honestly the only downside is when I’m sick.

Man, I wish I was a guy. I would give fucking anything to care less. Caring and doing all this menial, stupid emotional work is fucking exhausting.

Your opinion is wrong and bad.

It really doesn’t sound like you gave the show a fair chance, at all. The directing, especially for a half-hour comedy, is really good. I found the first scene of the second episode—the one that incorporates the flashbacks—to be fantastically done, and it conveys its point (and the overarching theme of the show)…

Parents is an awesome episode and it will absolutely be the shows Emmy nomination, but Old People, the episode about Rachel’s grandmother, was the one episode that made me cry. It was probably a lot to do with the fact that it made me think about my own grandmother, who passed away in 2010, but something about that…