Even now I have some friends that I primarily spend time with because we have so much in common and it’s easy. And that’s fine and all, but yeah—we’re just mutually using each other and it’s kinda dumb. And I’m sick of hearing about their boyfriends. Like, I’m upset because in two days I’m gonna be doing an interview…

I agree. “Sex addiction” is not the same as violating one’s marriage vows and physically endangering your loved one [since I’m completely certain this dude didn’t check whether the woman he fucked in Panama had an STI]. So sick of this being used as an excuse for generally shitty misogynistic behavior.

Wow. That press release is blatantly ridiculous. He patted women’s asses to make them feel more comfortable? I’m so sure.

A) It’s not “unprecedented”

“In accordance with their normal procedures?” That sure as FUCK better mean “we are expelling the students responsible and ensuring they have to be homeschooled from now on so they cannot expose any other Black kids to this kind of abuse.” So messed up how schools defend themselves before they defend students who…

Umm. “Criminal mischief?” For trying to kill someone? wtf?

I just don’t know about this. On the one hand, yes, it’s fantastic and a huge step forward and I’m glad people are talking about it. On the other hand, I share with my friends and with anyone else I want to, but I’m not hugely interested in being exposed that way on Facebook. I also worry over the long-term…

But even if it is culturally appropriate, doesn’t matter. You still have the right to refuse.

Yup.

Thanks for posting. I really appreciate you reaching out because of course, I do think sometimes that I’m just being paranoid, or oversensitive, or that I shouldn’t react so strongly to relatively minor issues. But it all starts to weigh on a person and starts to take up a lot of mental space.

Um, believe it or not, there are other options than using the legal process. Publicly shaming one’s abuser is sometimes useful, memoirs have been very useful for women to publicly accuse people they have no legal recourse against; there are also lists of men who have sexually harassed women, there’s reporting through…

Okay, but have you ever actually tried to file charges? No? Then you have literally NO IDEA how terrifying/offensive/degrading/retraumatizing that process can be. Which is very. Literally the only woman I even know of who successfully filed charges was Alice Sebold, and she specifically wrote in her memoir Lucky that…

No one feels sorry for her? I do. Have you ever tried to MAKE a police report? In my case, the police literally rewrote my story and insisted I must have been on drugs at the time I was raped. I have literally never done drugs, not even pot, and at that point I’d only been drunk twice in my whole life. But the cops…

WORD even though it’s a fact that a woman is way more likely to be raped by a friend of the family or a family member. The statistics are there. No one is hiding this.

Um I don’t think this is happening. Black women have had to make the choice not to report Black men’s assaults and rapes for decades, maybe generations, for fear of drawing further negative attention to their communities. Natalie isn’t “painting Black men as rapists,” she’s using a few stories from her own past to…

I’m really glad you wrote this article, and I could relate to a lot of it.

Honestly this reminds me of a lot of interactions I’ve had in my daily life. I’ve got a male housemate who walks around in an open bathrobe over boxers, during the middle of the dang day; my other housemate doesn’t pay attention to the toilet seat. Just stuff like that. I know it sounds small but that combined with my…

This has really shaken me, with all the accusations against Ben Affleck. I fully believe these women and I’m just so disgusted. Hope his kids are safe.

I feel so sad for that woman who thinks that just because she didn’t physically wrestle Weinstein off her, she is not a strong woman. She IS a strong woman. Surviving means she is a strong woman. Being brave enough to talk about it means she is strong. Not every strong woman is Buffy the Vampire Slayer, for heaven’s…

I can’t decide if it’s messed up that I’m so upset about Affleck, or whether this just seems like the final frickin’ straw. He was allowed to go on to marry super-successful Jennifer Garner, have kids, make bank, direct, star, do whatever he wanted in Hollywood. And I also think it’s pretty stupid honestly that…