I keep saying; I'd rather be alone and miserable than in a miserable relationship.

Your comment really made me stop and pause. I'm with a loving partner, we have a great life and a great home. He's a wonderful father. Yet my attraction to him is at a low and has been for a while now. Yes, we still have lots of sex, but I am desperately missing feeling strong attraction to someone. But I have no…

There's also a third, less talked about option, which is polyamory. Why throw away a wonderful relationship and a family unit because your physical needs aren't being met? Why can't you have both? The truth is, you can. Learning how is a bitch and completely changes who you are (in the very best ways, IMHO), but you…

Do you wish you hadn't left your first partner?

So, I hadn't really considered circumcision until the I was asked when I wanted to schedule it. My mother was there, and had this look on her face saying 'I don't want to impose'. However, she's a nurse practitioner in urology for the VA, so she has A LOT of experience with men's peni. So I told her this is one of…

Thanks for this - I have a wonderful little girl and just found out that our next is going to be a boy. I was all 'ugh, boys... new genitals to learn and I know fuck-all about being a boy'. Was really kind of bummed (gender disappointment I think it's called, but as soon as he's here all of that will be out the…

It is my understanding that male circumcision in those countries is very similar (unsanitary and later in life). Heck, we had issues of mohels giving baby boys herpes in New York.

It's good to know that there's more of a mix as far as who opts to do it or not in the states. There are so many weird things that defines proper manhood in this culture ... the idea of your penis looking different feels like something no one should worry about unless you have an actual illness that's causing it, you…

For what it's worth, the procedure is not painful if done within about 2 weeks of birth; well, I should say it's SLIGHTLY painful, but many babies don't cry (and if they do, it's because someone is spreading their legs and touching them, not because the procedure itself is painful). The nerves and blood vessels in…

This is actually a reason why I don't want to have a son. Circumcision is such a weird thing in the US and the fact that not having it done could cause you embarrassment from your peers as much as having it done would in other places ... it's just a lot of pressure to put on a new mother who is already worried their…

The SAT is not an intelligence, reasoning, or logic test. It's a facts test. You don't need to be intelligent to learn facts, and you can be intelligent and not know facts.

Trent, buddy, you have an Oscar. You don't need the Grammys anymore. They are not your peers. They are the lamest of the terribles. You want proof? Here are a few acts that have never won a competitive Grammy:

I love Gothic stuff.

And Timothy Dalton. Don't forget Timothy Dalton. Always good to see an old Bond get new work.

Wait, why are we calling him sleazy for this? Isn't he saying he thinks we should pay all workers fair wages, regardless of what country they're in? Am I mis-reading what he's saying here?
Serious question, this isn't sarcasm. What am I missing?

Are you stupid? Or don't you understand that what he's saying is that he believes in paying workers fair wages but that it shouldn't have to be only to workers in the US. Basically, he wants fair working conditions for workers around the world, not just the US. Unless you're a 'patriot' of the Tea Party variety who…

I think what bugs me (but doesn't surprise me) is people in general who are so fucking proud of their lack of compassion. Not just for drug addicts, but for any suffering person. These people always come out of the woodwork and proudly proclaim their lack of sympathy, as if it was a virtue to be heartless.

It's sad how many people hold to the (wrong and harmful) mindset that addiction = weakness or a failure of personal will. Once you've been up close and seen someone dear try and try to beat it (and fail and fail, too often) you know how wrong that is. But the prevailing attitude lets us get away with punishing addicts…

I think what bugs me (but doesn't surprise me) is people in general who are so fucking proud of their lack of compassion. Not just for drug addicts, but for any suffering person. These people always come out of the woodwork and proudly proclaim their lack of sympathy, as if it was a virtue to be heartless. I hate it.…

It always amazes me when people have no compassion for addicts, as if it isn't something that could affect anyone. Even those who claim they would never try drugs can't seem to understand that something as simple as being born into a different circumstance might give you a different perspective. And even those people…