Good to know-my 4 year-old hasn’t figured that out yet, so it sounds like some furniture rearranging is in order!

I love my 20s formal dining room with swinging door to my enclosed kitchen. It is glamorous.

I might have seen this in the comments Here, but F-You money is very important. As others have said, put aside money automatically every paycheque (I started with $25 when I was broke in grad school). Work on building that up. You need to be able to walk away from a job, relationship, or rental and this is the fund…

I’m fortunate that I haven’t had to teach lectures that large (although I have taught ca. 150 person lectures) and that I’ve been at institutions with robust policies for dealing with these types of scenarios up to and including having police sit in on the class in question. I suspect that’s more out of fear over…

And also not the point of museums!

Given the circumstances of collecting most items found in a typical university anthro museum, it would be shocking if they weren’t haunted!

And I kind of think she’s losing her pop touch. Her last album had some great pop songs (message aside), but these feel mostly forgettable.

I can see why she might have questioned the massage at first. So much of theatre training involves getting used to touching others and being touched by them, or being in someone’s space. You can see how abusers would exploit that...

This reminds me of Seth MacFarlane. Like, “I’m so in on this that I can have it in my movie unquestioned, and if you don’t like it/find it funny, it’s your fault”, but actually isn’t clever at all and doesn’t even question the status quo.

Me too. I’ve been around since pre-Kinja and remain in the greys. Many of us try to add comments of substance and get lots of response, but seem to be consigned to the greys for eternity...

My experience as a professor is that most would take it seriously if only to cover their asses.

There is a woman at my grandmother’s care home who is nearly catatonic but used to get quite agitated until the care workers by chance gave her a baby doll to cradle. She spends all day holding that and it keeps her calm. I have never seen anything more poignant. Your story touches me in the same way.

I had lots of those dreams after my dad died suddenly years ago. I’m certain my subconcious is trying to find some comfort in reconjuring him. When I do have one of those dreams now (quite rare), I’m comforted that I can still remember so much about his physical presence.

Anytime my husband tells me to calm down or relax, my response is “Never in the history of the world has saying that had the desired effect.”

I might be slightly doxxing myself here, but I taught for several years at a university with a significant museum of anthropology and many of my colleagues were archaeologists. Some of the grad students would do lab work there cataloguing and identifying a collection that had been donated to our department by someone…

I have a friend from grad school who did get legitimately stalked by a student and it was scary as shit. Let me tell you, the police did nothing and brushed her off, but the university and faculty took it very seriously. I can’t imagine the professor not getting on this immediately.

I had a few scary encounters with Japanese men who were likely pretty innocent but had no sense of how creepy they were coming off, but this sounds really creepy. I wonder if he’s repeating the story of the odd foreign woman who kept demanding a toilet...

I had the same feeling about 2 years ago taking the train home at rush hour. About this time of year (Halloween adjacent), and this guy gets on the train around 5:30 in a scary clown mask (but otherwise regular outfit with hoodie and jeans) and carrying a big duffel bag. He stands by the door and starts doing an…

Because that behaviour (exercising control over others through anti-social behaviours) is all on a spectrum, with mass shootings at one end. How scary for you!

And the Dear David thread has just hit a lull! I need more!