A good reminder that none of this stuff will happen overnight, and practicing at these kinds of skills (NaNoWriMo, Toastmasters) is how you get really amazing at this stuff. Rarely will you backdoor an amazing speech by winging it.

“But there are plenty of people who are bad at reading social cues, and that shouldn’t be a crime”

First: I’m so sorry about what your father did to you.

Second: you’ve got way more than a binary decision here man. The first thing you should do is start with talking with a therapist. You’re sitting on a whole lot of pain and emotional scar tissue and that’s not the sort of thing that’s easily undone by yourself.

But…

1. No. Just no. I don’t like when strange men approach me when they have nothing in common with me and no one else is around. I don’t like when men I don’t know hit on me using pet names. I don’t like when they’re overly insistent on staying in contact. Maybe refrain from the hyperbole; you need to do a lot more than…

As someone in the midst of an indefinite hiatus from dating (put that one on a tee for you, Kinja), I appreciated this. I sometimes feel very strong external pressure (both from people I know and vague cultural zeitgeist-y things like reading Dr. Nerdlove) to pursue a relationship, the sort of subtle but persistent…

I’m impressed by how this article has been monopolized lately by guys who have taken all the wrong lessons from the recent wave of sexual assault allegations.

The rules for approaching women are pretty basic. Just treat them with respect and use your emotional intelligence.

For women you don’t know, don’t creep and just walk up, start a conversation, and try to get a contact. If it doesn’t pan out, that’s it, make light of it and move on. Don’t withdraw like a wounded…

If you think simply asking someone out for a drink or even explicitly a date will cause them become “sexually distressed” it’s probably because they saw that bottle of chloroform and rope you have in the boot of your car.

Statues and memorials are for not simply a “reminder” nor are they history. History is what’s taught in schools and textbooks. Memorials are there to celebrate and glorify. I have no interest in glorifying people who tried to overthrow the rightful government in front of buildings that government owns and operates…

No one is asking to have these people removed from history books and not taught in school. People are asking that there not be monuments and statues commemorating terrible people who did horrible, racists things and were on the losing side of a war that divided our country.

IDK, no one’s putting up statues of Hitler and people seem to remember him just fine...

Thanks for writing this. As a long time Android and windows user, I was thinking about changing to iOS/MacOS. From this review to other tech reviews it just seems a) overpriced, b) specs in their hardware that are a generation or so old, and c) great if you are all things Apple but doesn’t work well if you use other…

This has been a question that I’ve had for quite some time and when i heard that they were dropping the 3.5mm jack, I thought for sure they were going to do this, but they didn’t. Why not just put two lightning ports on the phone? One on the bottom and one on the top. Use either for charging and for headphones and,…

Oh, really? That’s a wonderfully reasoned response.

i hear there is a 3.5mm jack that is pretty universal

Ditto, I was a huge fanboy. Now that I have moved away, it drives me crazy having to be the family tech working on their Apple stuff. I’m constantly frustrated by the Apple walls.

Yeah, they are consistently driving me (a former devotee who still owns some Apple tech) to other products with their choices. I expect to be able to use my existing headphones on a new phone without having to buy adapters or a whole new product.

Of course they are. The users buy it anyway, no matter how hostile it is. And then they say it “just works”, when what they mean is “it ‘just works’ as long as you do exactly what Apple intended you to do with it and absolutely nothing else.”

My father had brain cancer, and the way John talked reminded me of him it made me cry.

Yes. My grandfather had one. His personality changed a lot before the end, and he even became violent.