because it is inherently selfish to not reciprocate. Which is totally fine.

There are lots of guys who also can't get off from fucking alone. Applying that logic to billions of guys is shitty and silly, because I could just as easily justify needing a bj based on that.

He didn't know where you've been, so why does your logic not apply to him?

I would think more than anything that feels like a dangling carrot to get someone to start dating you exclusively and it would make me feel weird as a guy. Like I shouldn't need that incentive if I want to or not, ya know?

it's a personal failing on her part because she doesn't screen and then doesn't axe them when she's not happy. then she has the audacity to call them selfish assholes... and turns around and does the same thing.

Right?

that's fine because it works for you both, and you're not calling the entire opposite gender assholes for being as selfish and selective as you like the author was!

Right? That's a personal failing on her part for not articulating her wants, and booting them when they are not met.

You sound like a real joy to be with.

it's not about that. If you find someone down with your needs, even if they are weird and objectively selfish, that's a-ok.

Yeah there are guys like that. But the reason people are calling her an asshole is that she's demonizing guys for doing the exact same thing she's doing

She's acting like she's entitled to having someone eat her out?? Why's that only work one way in her world?

That's fine, but she calls guys assholes for not going down on women, which is why she's a stupid hypocrite rather than someone who just knows what they want.

Both genders have an issue with viewing sexual compatibility as being a deal breaker. Society conditions you to feel like an asshole if you want to date your gf for not wanting to blow you or have sex as often as you, and vice versa for gals.

I know right? That's what is really bothersome about this whole thing. There are plenty of guys who can't get off unless it's from head or something other than fucking. Thankfully I am not one but it's not some big secret, and trying to justify her logic using that is stupid and gross

Yeah. The problem isn't having her own selfish wants in bed since everyone should.

Nah communicating your wants is not indecent at all no matter who is doing it. But the title pose a question (which is accurate btw). Declaring you will not do something is not selfish, duh. But saying you will not reciprocate most certainly is and there's no denying that.

I am a guy, so take this as you will, but I have many female friends and my gf's friends talk about this stuff in front of me as if I am another lady... how are you people finding it so hard to find guys who won't go down on you? Every guy I know is down for it, most love it.

Yeah Kentucky fans suck... but I will root for anyone over ND.

Me too. The guy's really gifted in the ring, and he's pretty good on the mic too.