My parents were paying, but I made it very clear that it was MY wedding and the only reason we were even having a wedding at all was because she insisted. I did have a sit down talk with her a few weeks before the wedding and she backed off a bit...at least around me. Her complaints went to her friends and other…

Glad to help. I eventually got my mother to back off when I had her research how much a caterer would cost with the full meal she insisted that we needed. She came back to me, tail between her legs, with a new understanding of how much wedding food actually costs. (not that we were even considering having a sit down…

I should say, that we actually did sweets. We made a banner that said 'Love is Sweet' and had four different pies, cupcakes, candy, and cookies. We even had sugar-free sweets for those watching their waistline/diabetes. We managed to have a final cost of $3200. I thought it was quite lovely and very us. And I don't…

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I fought my mom so hard about this. She certainly tried to have a lavish wedding, but I resisted. And won. Small wedding. (40 people) If she it her way though there would have been 150+ people (she gave me a list) and the thing would have costs way more than anyone could afford.

My mother spent our entire engagement (thankfully only 3 short months) hating absolutely everything about my wedding. Her biggest complaints were the venue (a converted barn), us not serving dinner (it was 3pm. We just had snacks), and no bridal party. "What about your good friends? Aren't they going to be offended?"…

I have bowed out of a few weddings, mostly because I make a terrible bridesmaid. I hate all the wedding crap, the bachlorette parties, bridal showers, rehearsal dinner, and standing there for an hour while you two read poems to each other. (last wedding I went to was 2 hours long and included poems, letters, unity…

I told a friend a few months before their wedding that they had a "match made in hell". Same deal. Cheating, breaking up, emotional manipulation, verbal abuse that seemed on the verge of physical. I lived with the girl for six months and ended up moving out a few weeks early because things had gotten so bad between…

My best friend is a guy and when he got married, I stood on the girl's side. I didn't know any of the other bridesmaid, but it was a traditional Greek Orthodox Wedding and that just seemed appropriate. There was a brief discussion about me wearing a suit or black to match the guys but I said absolutely not. I like…

Same here. Zero wedding party. So easy, no drama, and no rehearsal.

In order to save on drama and offending people, I had zero bridesmaids. Consequently, you don't need to have a rehearsal when you don't have a wedding party. All of my friends thanked me.

I have had the same best friend for nearly 17 years now, and although he is awesome, I am very glad I didn't marry my best friend. My best friend is great, we have a lot in common, people told us we would get married one day because you know...that's what happens, right? But that kind of a friendship IS different than…

Anna Shaffer. Antonia Thomas. Rashida Jones. Jennifer Beals. Troian Pratt-Bellisario. I'm sure there are more biracial actresses that I am not thinking of at the moment that could be a good fit.

I tried to explain this exact same things to my husband the other day and he said that he hated the label of feminist and wanted nothing to do with it. I highly suspect for the same reasons that your husband does too. (macho. more conservative.) I believe there are some mother issues in there as well. I'll keep…

For the most part, I am in the let-them-come-to-the-wedding-but-not-be-in-it category.

Yeah, well...a lot of states have ridiculous blue laws. It doesn't mean we should dig them all up and start legislating them in twisted ways. Don't these people have something better to do? I mean if you are I did this shit at work and brought this to our boss, we would be scolded or fired.

I know it isn't true in my relationship. My husband has a much lower sex-drive than I do. We have discussed it numerous times because I definitely want sex far more often than he does, but I don't want to just have maintenance sex. We tried that and frankly the whole process is just terrible. Being intimate is more…

This is why one of my good friends makes sure to tell the waiter that she has Celiac's, so they understand that she isn't just a gluten-free fadder.

I have always been a hot-natured female. I own one long-sleeved shirt, dislike scarves for all day wear, wear a light jacket as my winter coat, and have been known to turn the air conditioner on in the middle of January. Summer is my enemy. I am so so grateful Mr. Bean is just like me. It is almost guaranteed that if…

To be fair, their elegant home may also be covered in PB&J and Legos on most days and they just did a serious deep clean before the party. I host a monthly game night at my house and although we keep our home fairly clean, once a month it is spotless. I wonder if my friends think that my house is always like that?