Modern porn follows two different primary trends: More female dominant, or more like real sex.

I guess I’m old. Yes it’s happened to me but I now make a distinction between the “Hey baby looking fine” and “I wanna ..” guys. The hey baby ones actually give me a confidence boost instead of making me feel degraded but that’s because I’m approaching 50 I suspect. I hated them a lot when I was in my 20s and 30s.

I think it might be not noticing yes. Almost every time someone has done the hey baby thing and I have flashed my wedding ring and said “sorry married” they have stopped and usually apologized. In the countless times I’ve flashed the ring only one guy persisted afterwards. I think the strangest thing is the apology.…

I’m actually confused about what you’re satirizing. Are you satirizing “basic bitches” or a stereotype of “white girls” (upper-middle class WASP white women)? Engaged Brooklynites, a few years off from bringing their babies to their local bars? Because that’s actually how this read to me. From the 100-year-old ring,…

Not much of a humble brag for me. Having an engagement ring and being a lipstick lesbian is a fucking nightmare, especially since Cindymoo is also a lipstick lesbian. I’m often hit on when I’m sitting right next to her. We had to be protected by this family from NYC when we were on an excursion in Cozumel because this…

This comes up on all articles having to do with catcalling and other such issues. #YesAllWomen always sat weird with me. Because it isn’t all women. I have never gotten catcalled. I know it’s degrading and horrible, but it really doesn’t happen to all women. I always feel weirdly left out or like I’m not actually a…

Oh, fuck off. You’re as bad as the guy I yelled at in Starbucks who felt the need to come hit on me from outside while I was trying to get work done. I told him men do this way too often and he said, “Wow, you sound vain, it must be SO HARD to be so beautiful.” Yes, it is annoying to have random dudes think it’s their…

In part, quite probably. However, the responses I get to “I’m married” are usually “How married?” or “I don’t mind”, or “me too....” rather than a “sorry, didn’t notice the ring.”

Satire literally always fails on Gawker Media because the Gawker commentariat is a pack of subliterate reactionary banshees

Talking about street harassment isn’t bragging you creepy fucking idiot

I get where you’re coming from—I picked up some subtle and not-so-subtle notes of eau de humblebrag in this piece. Two things gave me pause about being dismissive: the dangerous and unfortunately common myth that women really enjoy/appreciate all public sexual attention; the thought that some social programming…

there is such an overwhelming catalog of articles on the internets that detail what can happen to women who don’t respond to men’s “friendliness”, who turn down men’s “friendliness”, who change their mind after initially accepting men’s “friendliness”, who get hurt in some way. can you really blame us for wanting to…

Honestly, the type of man she’s describing here just doesn’t give a fuck. Engagement ring, pregnant belly, dude standing LITERALLY next to you - it’s not about you, it’s about power. And it’s gross.

This makes so much sense and it fits nicely with the narrative that “I’m taken” works better than “No” when women are trying to reject unwanted advances. Now, we’re not only reinforcing the belief that the “bro code” prevents dudes from trespassing on other dudes’ property, but we’re also protecting their precious…

I used to get harassed and catcalled a lot so then I started carrying myself differently. I always make sure I’m standing tall and walk with confidence, eyes straight ahead. I don’t smile, and I have also perfected a pretty decent death stare for those men who don’t understand that it’s the polite thing to do to break…

But it isn’t real for all women. I have never been hit on or sexually harassed in public spaces probably because I am not that physically attractive. Honestly, at times I would have welcomed this sort of come-on. I know I am not alone in this among women. But that doesn’t mean that women who experience this are…

It’s cool though. This is only a young woman’s curse. After you reach a certain age they’ll leave you alone. It’s not much, but it’s something.

If you’ll read the other comments on this post so far, you’ll see how real this is for all women. Street harassment isn’t flattering, and sharing your experiences with it isn’t bragging. If you’re a woman, it’s happened to you, and if it’s happened to you, you know it’s degrading, disenfranchising and anything but…

My friend (who for whatever reason got hit on aggressively at clubs) used to wear a fake engagement ring whenever we went out. Guy starts hitting on her/dancing on her, and she’d hold up the ring and say, “I’m taken.”