I don’t have much to add other than to encourage the VA angle for your dad. They have an array of programs for homeless and homeless at-risk Veterans. Some resources may vary based on your dad’s location.

Your first mistake was doing his laundry at all.  No offense but your husband seems like an asshole.

Just stop doing shit for him. Going on strike can be amazingly effective.  (I’m assuming straight up adult communication isn’t getting results.)

I did not know there was a third hole for a tampon until i was 17 and i literally found it on accident, because it was inappropriate to discuss how a woman’s body worked. i couldn’t figure out how to use one properly and fully was just laying it in there like a hot dog in a bun...

A better strategy is to establish a connection with a person, determine whether or not they’re trustworthy, and then open up about AB/DL. That takes time.

I was about to make the same comment. Find the poor kitty a home if he/she doesn’t already have one and keep the cat indoors (or install a catio).

That guy can eat a bag of dicks. Animals deserve a far better advocate than this asshole.

Ugh, I’m sorry :( This seems like a compatibility issue. I’m a quiet person too and any relationship I’ve had with a person that didn’t get or respect that never lasted long. It is ultimately too draining to try to be someone I’m not.  This might be a good thing if he’s pulling back before you’ve invested too much…

I know some African regions/cultures definitely don’t sexualize breasts. I learned this second hand from a Peace Corp volunteer.  He was heavily questioned by some local men to explain why boobs were a thing for white guys.  One man was quite puzzled because “breasts are for babies.” That man knows his shit.

And yet Trump regularly demonstrates his dementia with no editing/manipulation needed.

Same. NY&Co used to be my go-to. It was the best place for affordable but nice work clothes.  I wouldn’t be caught dead in the tacky crap they are selling now.  Maybe I’m just old now...

Did you bother to look at some of the organizations referenced in this article or did you just have a hot take and feel the need to share? Some of the orgs listed here also provide access to contraceptives and basic GYN exams (for example: Georgia’s Feminist Women’s Healthcare Center).

Fuck you. Ensuring women can access reproductive care is a perfectly valid and vital charitable cause.

In my first real job out of college, my boss was an X-files fan and went by the mantra “trust no one”. I’ve adapted it over the years to “trust but verify”. It has served me well particularly in my data-focused work.

This 100%. I’m happily child-free so maybe my opinion isn’t valid here but it seems to me if the dude doesn’t pull his weight beforehand then don’t have kids. Adding children to the equation won’t make life easier. No one has time for a partner that doesn’t take care of his own shit (side rant: who in this day in…

I’m going to hazard a guess that you have no experience with grants management particularly at a federal level. To say there are no requirements for performance or outcomes is ludicrous (at least in the programs I have experience with). There are political and social issues that impact initial and continued funding…

I may get shit for saying this but I can kinda see where you are coming from (at least from a possible FtM scenario). Puberty makes everyone feel weird and at times disconnected from their own body.  There are plenty of messages out there deriding the female body as unacceptable/gross. I can see where the option to…

Same. The worst I was ever treated in a professional environment was at a company with a majority female workforce. I was also fresh out of college, naive, and an instant target. I learned some lessons and got the fuck out as soon as I could.

In my case, hiring a maid was exactly what happened when I went on a cleaning strike. It’s not that he learned to do his share, he just found another woman willing to do it (at least she is being compensated for her time). It was a hollow victory but a victory none the less, I suppose.

Consider yourself lucky that you made it 10 years without a scare and get a vasectomy. It’s a super easy and effective procedure and women’s cycles can become very unpredictable over time (rendering this method problematic).