I also have siblings who can be harmful. The most harmful one passed away many years ago and I won’t lie. It was a huge relief for me.

I really like what you said about dealing with problems someone you love raises with you. My mother never addressed those things and said I complained too much.

I’ve tried for twenty years to reestablish good feelings with my child. She has largely avoided me and won’t let me into her life. I can not get her to talk about it what went wrong. She said a few things, but not much. I’ve been to counseling for fifteen years trying to straighten out anything in me that may have…