In many ways, I am so glad I didn’t find out about this during the actual pregnancy. I’m in a much better place nowadays and basically chalked this up to another way he disappointed me. It took a really long time to get to this point. It’s just a bit strange to see someone else living the life I planned to live with…

Haha. People with children keep telling me that. I genuinely do wish them well but the whole way our breakup and even the way I found out about this baby was handled makes me glad we are no longer in each other’s lives. And, I do, a bit spitefully, hope this will be challenging for him but not in a nasty way.

I just found out my ex husband had a baby a couple of days ago (about 6 months after he finally agreed to sign my divorce papers). So far I’ve felt alternately liberated and depressed. Anyway, just gonna go watch a movie and drink with my friends and maybe call him drunk (not the last bit hopefully). It’s just so…

I googled but I couldn’t find anything regarding him abusing either Moss or Ryder (not saying that he didn’t). I did find a Vanity Fair intereview where Kate Moss stated that Depp was the first person who really took good care of her. However, a lot of people on Jezebel have said that he was violent with Moss and…

not saying he didn’t assault her but, in my experience( dv court volunteer in chicago so may not even apply in this case), it’s not difficult to get a temporary restraining order at the first hearing. i think it’ll be interesting to see if the tro stays in place after their first court date.

If this is an Arrested Development, “her?” I am resolutely on your team.

he went around the counter to hold the people. some people posted the longer news clip in earlier posts.

I thought Avery tried really hard to get her help bit she kept refusing. I understand that it’s part of her disease but I don’t really think there’s much else Avery could have done. It’s a sad situation though.

I know what you mean but I think Jerry Brown has pardoned quite a few people besides RDJ during his tenure as governor. I don’t think they were all wealthy and well-connected.

I feel like I’ve seen the Franz Ferdinand joke at least 3 times today. Can someone explain the context/origin? (I don’t mean the World War context).

Thank you. It does help to know that :).

Also, have PCOS so super depressed about fertility prospects.

I agree. And, I wish I had done that too. I am 28 soon and ended a 10 year relationship this year. As badly as our relationship ended, I kind of wish that we’d gone ahead had kids because don’t really see myself finding someone to have kids with in the couple of years. I am overweight and generally haven’t had a lot…

She said that dating him was “scary”, “really hard”, and that “she didn’t know how not to do it.” Also, that she’s “ok” and “went through it.” I guess it’s not overly assholish but to me it sounded like she was making the situation all about her.

Ehh. 24 is plenty old enough to know not to have an affair. Billy Crudup is the bigger asshole but she’s an asshole too. Especially given what she’s said recently.

Wouldn’t they have had to claim residency of the state you were in though? Maybe they didn’t pay the same fees as state residents?

Right, what I was trying to say in the beginning, not sure I worded it correctly, is that I would have liked the opportunity to discuss all options to preserve our relationship; including opening our marriage before the cheating occurred. However, in retrospect, I don’t know that I would have ultimately agreed to…

Thank you so much for talking through it respectfully. This is an ongoing situation, and I am still emotional so I am not as clear about what I think as I would like to be, since it is all subject to change.

I also think it’s important to have a talk about what your ideas and ideals for a marriage are before you get married. My ideal would be to be in monogamous marriage for life and I want to be with someone on the same page with me. Though, I guess, sometimes people lie or change their minds. Some people (me) think that…

I guess what I am trying to say (inarticulately) is that my preference would have been for him to let me think about whether I wanted to open the relationship. Or, we ended the relationship before he started cheating on me.