I don’t know. I don’t think so. A long term affair ended my ten year relationship (4 year marriage)... I would say our relationship was pretty good before then, I think he would too, the affair ended it because the amount of lying made me feel like I couldn’t trust him anymore. But, I am fairly young and we didn’t…

I am also going through a divorce right now. In our case my husband cheated and recently moved in with the woman he had an affair with. I think he was maybe feeling restless and wanted to simply to have sex with other people and he met her . I personally would have liked to have that conversation. I wouldn’t have…

I think they should end the relationship, or try to open up the relationship, or try to fix the situation by being honest and working on sex stuff. I don’t think lying is going to devastate the person less.

Then you don’t have much of a marriage to begin with and should leave before having an affair. End things cleanly. I know for a fact that my ex husband used this very same excuse with his friends before he embarked on his extramarital liaisons... I don’t think this is true, we were fairly happy, got along, and…

I found out on Thursday that the ex (10 year relationship) moved in with the woman he left me for in April. I don’t really know how to feel, I’d pretty much decided that we were over at that point, but he had sent me many texts and emails about how much he missed me, how he couldn’t sleep, how he saw me everywhere,…

Ahh. Thank you! That helps. I met him freshman year of college so by the time it ended, we’d been together for ten years. I think this totally applies to me. One of my fears is that pretty much the only adult relationship experience I have is with him and I am terrified at how bad it all I will be.

I am genuinely fearful because I am 28 about to get a divorce— everyone my age is in a long term relationship, and about to get married while I am ENDING my long term relationship. Not sure if there are many men out there for me. AND, I am not 22. This is scary.

The lack of empathy here just blows my mind! He’s a CHILD, can’t you just be happy for the poor kid that something so terrible and traumatic turned into something good?

Same!

Agreed. She’s also making it harder for Muslims to get jobs with these types of duties as well. Oh, Muslim sounding name, they’ll require accommodation. Even if those people don’t give a fuck, they’ll never have a chance to voice it to the employer because of fear of lawsuit.

I hear people in Chicago refer to it as UC quite often. I am native Californian so it used to confuse the living daylights out of me.

Tbh, I feel like they’re equally famous. I never follow any sports but I know both their names.

Patrick Kane is a hockey player in Chicago. I think he’s won the Stanley Cup twice now.

She’s literally the reason I got out of bed in the weeks after he moved out. I don’t know how people do it without a little animal companion to care for.

Oh. I am so happy that I got the pooch in this split! She’s literally my lifeline these days, I love her so much :).

Thank you. I don’t know why it’s not getting easier. Maybe soon, I hope. The cookies are an excellent idea.

I wear watches all the time! I think they’re bootiful! I love yours :)

I feel super shitty and miss my not quite ex-husband (he moved out for 4 months ago, and we haven’t really been in touch). I miss him so much even though our last six months were horrible. He cheated and lied and was a general ass.

Oh. I really hope not. I think she just enjoys posting photos of her kids on instagram, like a lot of parents, she just has a really huge audience. They both seem to have good heads on their shoulders and certainly don’t need the money.

Agreed. I also like people who treat service employees like human beings.