Gross.

Shit, I already un-greyed this by starring the response, so here goes:

Consider the source? Then look at the court documents! The DA believed Allen did it but didn’t want to traumatize the child with a trial. Many of your statements are pure misogyny and that’s the reason for your disbelief. If you didn’t hate women so much, maybe you’d actually look at the source.

I, too, am shocked by Allen’s treatment, Javier. How in the hell can people like you still be treating him with reverence in 2018?

Nope not even a tiny little bit. The judge in his custody case said he thought he at best had been inappropriate. The DA declined to press criminal charges to spare the child as he freely said. They believed he did it. In what world is declining to press charges to spare a victimized child the burden of a trial being…

I totally see you point. However, I made multiple MAJOR decisions in my life due to the fact I wanted to have children. I have now lost both ovaries and cannot and look back at how differently I would have lived my life if I hadn’t thought that way. For many reasons, adoption is impossible for me, so it was a callous…

It legitimately feels like this was going to be the first installment of this column that didn’t offer egregiously dogshit advice, so a line was tossed in to really lower that level of quality right back to the ground where it has been every week prior to this one.

This story is made even better by your screen name.

Right? And maybe your parents will die soon anyway. WTF Jane.

Agreed! When I got to that line I physically moved backwards in my seat. Infertility affects so many women, increasingly so now, so it’s ridiculously off base to say something like that to someone who so clearly wants to have a child

The whole response is shitty - she tells the writer to wait for the moment she wants to get pregnant to decide whether nor not to break up with her boyfriend based on his willingness to move or not. So what’s she supposed to do if he doesn’t - move to Canada and find a guy to get her pregnant right away? No - if you…

i read that line and straight up yelled, alone in my home OH MY GOD, WHAT, OH MY GOD ... WHAT. OH, MY GOD.

Right?! On the maternity leave. When she mentioned the two and the “three month standard in the US” I was like hahahahha sure. Maybe. As long as you know that’s UNPAID.

Yeah, that was not funny.

Ok, thank you! I was *floored* by that closer. It is such a mean, fucked up, unnecessary thing to say!

I went through the EXACT same line of thinking. “Wow for once this advice isn’t terrible.”

And he moved to UTAH to purge dogmatic beliefs?

agreed. that is such a poor way to end your advice... not even sure this column is helpful let alone kind spirited.

Dear letter writer 2,

*Reads answer to LW1*