It sounds like you’re very angry at white women. Did your man leave you for one?

Thanks for this! I think it’s an interesting word.

Oh, good. And linguistics is great! I think the one good social function of the field is teaching people to appreciate dialects as more than “slang” and to embrace linguistic diversity. I wish we could teach dialect diversity in all of our schools—but usually it’s just college students who get to learn about it. Also:…

Yeah, I think this is the problem. I’m white and YES, if the word “Becky” means “dumb white woman,” and someone called me a “Becky,” then, yes, my feelings would be hurt. But that’s all it would be. My feelings. An isolated incident. Where an individual told me I was basic/dumb. It wouldn’t tap into any history. Or…

I’m white. Never heard of the term “Becky” before this weekend. Would not be offended if someone called me a “Becky” b/c I don’t get systematically discriminated against. I am enjoying learning about the word. Also, this situation that you describe? It’s so fucking wrong. I hope more people read it:

Hi! I’m really sorry if I offended you. I really was just curious. And I thought your response (above, about Beckys acting Beckyish) was actually funny/interesting and I wanted to understand it better. I just like learning more about words/expressions that I don’t understand. At the same time, I don’t want anyone to…

I’m genuinely curious: what does it mean to act “Becky?” Does it mean to generally act like a white person, or are there certain characteristics that are more likely to occur in a person who acts “Becky?” (I am absolutely just 100% curious and am not trying to imply I think “Becky” is offensive.)

I like her too. She seems like a sweet person who everyone is mean to. And she has talent. But that VIDEO. Ugh. I hate how much I am like, “Oh Ann, No!”

I specifically said that I didn’t think this article was overly critical. I do think that we’re pretty cruel to Dunham in other ways. Case in point: you just called her a lard-ass.

I’m not going to say that republicans had anything to do with one particular case. However, it is true that anti-muslim hate crimes have gone up during this primary season—and that some of the republican front-runners have espoused anti-muslim rhetoric. Also true that anti-abortion crimes have gone up. And that some…

Hey, thanks for posting this. I’m white and have often hesitated about sharing my very genuine compliments to black women on their hair or hair styles cause I don’t want to seem like I am objectifying anyone. I also fear white women commenting on black hair can come off as self-serving allyship, like, “*I*, a white…

I’m glad you brought this up. I do think the potential racism (or ignorance of just how racist it was) is the most disgusting aspect of this whole thing. But, I’ve been torn with including this aspect in my criticism because I’m white—so I don’t really have the authority to speak to this—unless it’s to try to explain…

And those are the millions of Americans who would likely be the most affected by Trump’s policies.

I wanted to come here and say the same. I hate how obnoxiously mean-girly we are to Dunham. We ALWAYS tear her down. (And I say that as someone who finds her obnoxious).

Bernie was obviously horrified by Trump’s statement—and his response was unjustly twisted to say he doesn’t care about women’s issues. Bernie was simply trying to make the point that Trump says vile, sexist, and racist things all the time, that we should criticize these comments and call them out for what they are:…

Yeah. . . .I came into this article wanting to wag my finger about us all being collectively nicer to Lena Dunham. She annoys the crap out of me—but I hate it that we mean-girl her constantly. But then she says shit like this and all I want to do is star all of the mean-girl comments. . . . . I don’t think it’s stupid…

I dunno. You’re certainly entitled to your opinion. But saying she sucks here is really distracting (and in fact belittling) the message of the video. I can totally get why people think that’s an asshole move. If this video was about something other than sexual harassment/violence—and say, about some other aspect of…

Excellent point. I think we do a disservice when we act like “normal dudes” are not capable of harassment or violence against women.

Thank you for this video. Those tweets are vile and wrenching. And the reactions of all of the participants in the video (the men and yourself) made me want to cry AND hug everybody involved. Thank you for raising awareness of both the vile nature of online harassment AND showing us decent men’s reactions to it.

Yeah, I was trying to explain the scandal to my husband and he kept trying to interpret the sentence and I was just like, “No. . . just don’t. . . .” And he was like, “Do you think she means . . .?” And I was like, “No. No. Just. Just don’t try. . .”