Thank you. . . .this is a really hard conversation to have. I also appreciate the tone with which you made your original comment, as well as your responses.

I want to support you on this one. I don’t even like commenting on Donald Trump’s personal appearance, because I think we should just try to avoid making comments about people’s personal appearances. And I think we should avoid any comments about the color of a person’s skin.

more stars.

I agree with you about no racial epithets. But I disagree about ever equating “whitey” (or any other term that is derogatory to white people) with “nigger.” Not only are they historically different. . . .but there is so much more hate/violence associated with the n-word, black americans deal with systemic…

As bad as the stethoscope comment was, I found the description of the nurse’s monologue to be just as bad. Michelle Collins said something along the lines of “[the contestant] basically just read her emails.”

THANK YOU. I could not believe (ha) what I was reading. Like, 100% classic victim blaming.

but it is still somewhat hard to believe that a woman would agree, in 2015, to have sex with someone they met on the Internet without being able to look at their face

This needs so many more stars.

Yeah. . . .I agree that’s def a possibility (and like your description). . . . .And I don’t want to be too judgmental. I generally think almost anything can be joked about . . . .if the right person is telling the joke and the joke is told really well. . . .But I also don’t like to be the humor police. So, I don’t…

This makes me sad. It completely ruins all the love I had for him when he defended teachers. Now that comes off as mansplaining to me too. Even though the words were true then.

I once explained systemic racism to a POC on this website (I did not know he was a POC. I thought he was a white person. And his comment could have been taken as racist if it were coming from a white person. Something along the lines of “This is what blacks did. . . .”). He explained to me that he was a POC and…

THANK YOU. I don’t feel like I am overly sensitive in terms of humor either. But, sometimes, you just can’t. I feel so heartbroken for this child. And for this woman, who, if she gets treated for her mental illness, will know forever that she killed her son. Dear god. It is awful.

Agreed. Good on Julia for coming up with the most convoluted, and yet somehow extremely cruel, insult I can honestly, without hyperbole, say I have ever seen. Not the cruelest, by far. But incoherently cruel? Yes.

Yeah. . . . it confuses me. . . .I feel like I have an internal cognitive function that is like, “nah. . . that’s not good. . . . not now.” But, way more than that, just serious physical sadness over stories like this. I don’t get it. I don’t want to seem too judgmental, again, but, like, I just don’t get it.

Not as offended by all the corrections as I am by all of the “bad couch” jokes. Maybe I’m a humorless old crone, but even if I saw an opportunity on that one, and thought it would be funny, I wouldn’t indulge. I don’t want to rail on all the commenters who did (I think I like some of them), but, just, nope.

I’ve spent way too much time in my life (~15 mins over the past 5 years) trying to figure out what the damn thing meant. I mean, I knew it was cruel, but I just couldn’t figure out what it freaking meant.

Yeah, that does make a lot of sense. I would love to learn more about the background.

Even if we agreed with her. . . . and dear goodness we should not. . . .this argument makes 0 sense.

Sooooooo, saw this interview between Caitlyn and with Matt Lauer this morning and felt like I had to come to this conversation and tell you I think you may be correct about the insulation of economic privilege.

No. We need that movie now.