I hate that. When I had my first two kids I was a single mom working full time. Thankfully the government helped me out with daycare costs. However, I had several friends who were able to stay home with their kids give me the old, “I don’t want anyone else raising my kid.” “Aren’t you worried you’ll miss something…

Yep. I worked my way to near the top of my field, in a job that expected me to work happily 7am - 7pm and that unfortunately paid peanuts. My kid’s daycare was $1400/month. I would have a baby, pay half my salary for someone else to watch him during his waking hours, and then essentially never see him again.

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I had people suggest that if I was a stress analysis engineer (instead of a project engineer) I could have worked at home with my baby. I can only guess these people have never met a real life toddler. You can hardly sort laundry with a one year old, let alone do detailed computer analysis of high pressure steam…

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I work at home and I get constant shit - two years in - for BabyStu going to daycare. “But you’re already at home, can’t you just work around playing with him? Why would you let someone else raise him so you can lounge around all day?”

My best friend had twins - the child care costs in our county would have likely exceeded her take home pay. That isn’t even counting work costs like transportation & keeping up a work wardrobe.

My stay-at-home-mom-of-three friend texts me at least once a week that she is selling her kids to the circus. It’s a damn hard job.

“Obviously this is why you shouldn’t have kids if you can’t afford them, or birth control. And obviously abortion=murder. So just keep your legs shut or be prepared to go through an expensive and potentially dangerous pregnancy because you can always give the baby up for adoption. Adoption is such an easy and great…

I am in the wrong fucking business. Whoa. What does this daycare include? Caviar for lunch? Is the class pet a panda?

So between housing, food, and daycare, you’re essentially spending all your income at a time that you’re also supposed to be saving for retirement, college, a new car to replace the one that will break down eventually, etc.

There is some backlash against new mothers who work if they are wealthy enough (or appear wealthy enough) to afford not to. If a new mother is poor, though, she is viewed as lazy and wasting taxpayer money if she chooses to take public assistance to better care for her child.

In DC, one popular daycare franchise runs a whopping $28,200/year for one child. There’s a discount if you have another, but you’re still looking at around $50k/year if you’re the average two-income family with 2.1 children. That’s high-end private university money, not CUNY.

I think one of the reasons the gender aspect is under-discussed is the continued backlash against mothers who work. You should want to stay home with your child anyway! Don’t you feel guilty letting someone else raise them? How selfish to keep working when you have to pay someone such a large part of your income to…

Fuck you DeNiro, Today Show, Wakefield, Jay Cutler/Kristen Cavallari, all people who support this nonsense, and a HUGE special fuck you to Jenny McCarthy, who’s loud mouth started us down this godforsaken rabbit hole where this is given a platform even though it’s been proven WRONG time and AGAIN.

Fuuuuck off. My kid went a little weird around four months old. I guess I could blame it on that round of vaccines, but actually I think she just has a genetic tendency towards anxiety and that’s when I started to notice. I love when people say their babies changed overnight. Babies change. It's what they do. One day…

De Niro was 54 and his wife was 43 when they had him. Both those ages increase the chance of autism in a child, his by 66% and hers by 15% and there’s also an added chance if the father is over 10 years older than the mother, like this case.