See the word "or" in the sentence that I typed.

Just as I'd suspected...the type of person who judges other people by their musical tastes has a tin ear and what seems like total music illiteracy.

"I admire your confidence in your genitals" - this should become a standard greeting, especially among heads of state.

Just how many male characters have been depicted committing suicide in a naked or sexualized pose?

I mean, as a member of the group in question (one-balled dudes - yay cancer scares), I'll say this: most people will never know, most people who have sex with you will never know unless you tell them. It really takes a ball in the mouth or the hand to make the point, and even then a number of partners never notice or…

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This is a total derailment AND an unwarranted opinion on women's appearances, but for the record I believe that the real reason people aren't able to accept prominent ladymoustaches isn't that they believe women shouldn't have facial hair, but that said facial hair is just never full enough. It is yet another…

Speaking as someone who had a very permissive (but involved) mom, and whose high school girlfriend had a very permissive (but involved, and kind of hell-bent on getting her daughter some healthy relationship experience while still under her roof) mom - having a safe, non-sneaky-aroundy space to experiment and fool…

Former Southern Californian (yes, 110-120 degree summers aren't beyond me either), current New Yorker, here to tell you you have no idea what you're talking about.

But the degree of theft is something else entirely. We regularly give out small amounts of money to strangers (if we're city-dwellers and not shitheads), but we don't regularly give out all the cash in our pockets.

Tell us again how Anna Kendrick lacks stage musical experience?

People tend not to borrow large amounts of money (without documentation) with the same frequency with which people have sex.

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"Hey, I paid very little to see some amateur jazz musicians who play overlong sets - so why aren't I enjoying this jazz?"

I have multiple selections of hot music to fuck to in just about every genre. One time I was sleeping with a gal who stopped midway and said "sorry, I can't do this," and proceeded to swap out Bitch's Brew for Josh Groban. And not just Josh Groban - "You Raise Me Up" on repeat.

Car jackings, muggings, beatings, and armed robberies have 1) a clear property loss (save beatings), and 2) no legal, consensual analogue (except for formalized fights, which usually have an audience). Which is why it's hard to say "aww, how do you know he didn't WANT to give all that money to the guy in the alley?"…

The 'star' of the real life event was a white person.

I think you're right, actually. You've certainly convinced me. I still think that saying "that's not racism" in a non-academic/non-policy discussion might be a non-starter depending on who's on the receiving end, but that doesn't mean it's not correct.

Thanks for your response, and I certainly agree with you that the "racism" (quotations since we can't agree on a standard definition) that I and people like me live through is in an entirely different category and strength than the racism that POCs have to go through. I would want to venture, however, that redefining…

The point of betadater isn't to mold you into a better date. It's to get your self-assessment in line with how other people perceive you.