This is a very understandable feeling, but it’s one that must be fought, as you know. If you can’t bear to contemplate the larger picture, focus on doing all the good you can on the smallest scale - kindness to someone in your immediate sphere. In a time in which viciousness and petty hatreds are being celebrated and…

This. I know I’d be devastated. And I also know that absolutely nothing would stop me from loving my child and wanting to help him or her, no matter how painful, confusing, or ‘not what I expected’ that ended up being. Honestly, short of possibly killing/abusing another of my children, I cannot think of a circumstance…

No kidding. This pushes everyone in a bad direction, and if you’re too close to the edge to start with, it could easily be too much. Hope you’re easing in a better direction now.

This is the fucking problem. So stunned by that. Of all the ghastly stats, that’s the one that hits me hardest. (Well, that and that over half of eligible voters didn’t show up.)

“Would she still love Uber if it turns out she was charged hundreds or thousands of dollars more than she should have been over the course of her use of the service, solely because she was female?”

Less anecdotal: I have more protection in terms of sending my ride to a friend in Uber than I ever do in a cab. Taxi screening is pretty terrible. You can make a good case that Uber has more security built in, and more accountability after the fact, than traditional cabs.

Apologies if this is a silly question, but how can you tell? I’ve never scrutinized the fare, but it’s always been roughly as expected - but if it’s a 5% different I would not notice immediately, nor know where to look.

The most important thing is to defeat him crushingly. He needs to be humiliated. I understand people who can’t stand Hillary, and I understand that in many states she’ll win in a landslide. But every single vote for her and against Trump is important, no matter how safe the state.

“Yes, so long as you superficially appear to be in control, people will gladly not bother to check your true status.”

Fuck her also for being affiliated with a Muslim supremacist movement that advocates horrific treatments of women. She gets to marry a heathen and wear normal clothing and, y’know, drive and keep her genitalia, while running interference for people who keep women just like her but not as lucky in a terrible position.

Similar to what I was going to say. There are less invasive (wrong word, you know what I mean) ways to show physical affection than hugs - a squeeze on the shoulder, or the upper arm, etc - and you can gauge her reaction to that. But I think offering verbally, to make it clear she can have as much affection as the…

And, for heaven’s sake, don’t use corporal punishment. You can’t teach your kids nobody has the right to touch them against their will when their own parents hit them against their will and act as if it’s their right. This continues to blow my mind.

I am a hypocrit (maybe? hug-ocrit?) because I’m happy with social hugs, but only with people I know and like. I don’t hug anyone upon first acquaintance, and I don’t hug anyone I’m not genuinely really fond of.

I’m fairly privileged, economically. We live in a quiet, prosperous area. And yet I find myself unable to tell my kids what I was told, as a kid: “The police are here to help you. If you have an emergency, you can call them.”

Stay safe. And it’s all over soon. (I refresh 538 every hour.)

And it’s not the vulgarity. If he’d described a consensual encounter using words like “pussy” it would be ungentlemanly at worst. It’s not “pussy,” it’s “grab.”

This rings true to me. I work with a lot of military people. One of them is great: kind, generous, funny. But also a fundamentalist, really really right wing, somewhat in to conspiracy theories. I refuse to bring up politics because some things you can’t unlearn.

What part of the country are you in (if I may)? We’re in a suburb of DC and the ratio is the other way, which gladdens me. I like my neighbors, this means I still can.

Come on, that’s pretty normal for your typical 19 year old ...

That was one of my thoughts. My other was that, while she is (let’s give the benefit of the doubt) a sincere convert, she spent the first three decades of her life as a nominal Christian, so it wouldn’t be abnormal for that to shape her vocabulary and thinking, even as it’s no longer the religious community with which…