Can we please just start today over? This really just sucks.

He also had the best response to #metoo for a straight man, “what the fuck was wrong with me that women didn’t feel like I was someone they could confide in” and then he worked on being a better person. He wanted to be someone that a woman would never fear coming to, worried that he would give them an automatic…

I loved Bourdain for a lot of reasons, but this might be the top of the list. The biggest deal about it, to me, was that he changed over the past 20 years, too. Kitchen Confidential was written by a guy who respected women who managed to survive in a restaurant kitchen, but wasn’t all that interested in asking why…

This doesn’t directly address #metoo, but is relevant your mention of his treatment of everyone regardless of fame (and power): the Hanoi episode should have a monument that plays the Obama scene. Watch the entire scene with Obama, but especially from 31:00. It’s looking back at an alternate reality where people still…

I appreciated how Bourdain evolved from the cheeky American asshole in Cook’s Tour to the more respectful “I want to be everyone’s friend” in No Reservations to the “food is just how I talk about the bigger stuff” guy in Parts Unknown. He cut down on the wisecracking (somewhat) and turned into someone who was…

I’m not even sure what you mean by this comment. There aren’t two sides to this story. Tambor was so egregiously mean to a LONG TIME professional who given her age and her gender has gone through some bullshit in the industry, that when her co-workers, who she thought were friends, piled on against her, she broke into…

Exactly. Can you imagine what she went through in her earlier years that would drive to her to sobbing tears in fucking 2018.

Honestly, given that she’s be active in the industry since the bad old days and STILL was shocked by Tambor’s conduct kind of proves that it was insanely beyond even the usual run of bad behavior.

I honestly don’t know how this happened, and not that it changed anything that I noticed, but my middle school “Project Self-Respect” classes were VERY clear that harassment is defined by how the PERSON BEING HARASSED feels about it. The rest was bullshit abstinence only crap, but even a broken clock I guess.

This statement made me cry. This man loved her and all the complicated feelings love can entail. He seems so heartbreakingly human and devastated despite them potentially being in the process of ending their marriage. It really stuck me that despite love and success and wealth things can still be so complicated and…

God, a day after her death to provide such a statement, as heartfelt and heartbreaking as it is, his strength is immeasurable. I’m so sorry for him and their daughter. It makes me sad that he has to even delve into what is such deeply personal pain (her treatment, questions of substance abuse, the existence of a…

The HFPA has always been a joke but it’s now clear that it’s an especially sick one.

Eh?

I noticed the repetition too, but now it’s not the best time to make fun of Dave. He’s clearly in pain, and actually comes across as likable and sincere for once.

Also, in the absence of books to give all of you that address your own insecurities and terrible auto replay brain messages and the scars you’ve had to heal on your own, I will tell you two things I told both of them (and an extra):

I spent hours researching women leaders and pioneers and disruptors and finding all the stories I could about those women to correlate to the failures and fears they wrote down, and then I hand wrote those stories under their statements in a book.

Many of the most successful, self-possessed, vibrant, independent women in my life struggle mightily with depression and anxiety, and go between wanting to put it all out there — listen, if I can live through this, so can you — and wanting to keep it all hidden, because showing weakness will ruin her capacity to be a…

The statement isn’t even correct - she’s not a random teenage girl, she’s a specific teenage girl who happened to do something very similar first. If he’d done this with a random girl then yeah, it’d be weird as hell, but that statement was far more weirdly objectifying of Closs that the literal object of Closs…

“And while there’s something vaguely unsettling about a bunch of grown men presumably commissioning their prop department to create a life-size recreation of a random teenage girl”

Christ. No, no there’s not. This is entirely wholesome and innocent. Stop feeling like you have to inject shit like this into every article.

How’s it unsettling unless you’re sexualizing it for some reason?