I don’t know if we’re the best example at the moment

I’m only sad that the elephant that killed him died.

So true. I think of Martha, who was even younger, and she comported herself so much better. I’ll admit, as a fellow former staggeringly insecure person, watching Ruby’s continual scramble for validation was equal parts excruciating and infuriating: part of being an adult is learning to simply accept criticism and…

At least it wasn’t Ruby, with her continual moping about how terrible everything was. There’s self-deprecation, and then there’s just whinging. Be British, Ruby! Stiff upper lip!

that season was hard to watch because ruby was EXHAUSTING and frances was distressingly twee and the whole thing would have been a disaster had kimberley and howard not been there to give me life

It’s so annoying when the choice is - do it myself, or nag him until he does a halfass job of it.

Exactly this. There is so much invisible work that goes into making sure a house runs. As someone who lives alone and half the time couldn’t give a shit, I don’t take care of it the way I do when I have a roommate or a boyfriend/live-in.

Everything from making sure the clothes that were washed are folded and put away…

Thissss! I went I away this weekend unexpectedly and my husband stayed home. I asked him to please clean the whole apartment (which I do on a regular basis) and after much gyration he agreed. When I got home it was mostly clean (but not very well done) and he hadn’t cleaned the bathtub because he “didn’t know how.”…

This is so me. I can’t count on my husband to do things, or when he does do them it will be sloppy or wrong. So I end up doing most everything. I worry that if I tell him to do things he’ll be mad or if I don’t praise him for doing something he’ll feel taken for granted. Meanwhile I’m doing intense deep cleanings of…

Here’s the issue my husband believes (like literally believes) we are at 50/50 when in reality it’s more like 90/10 and it blows my mind. What was even more revealing is I tried to create a chore chart/list to create a more equal workload but so many items I was like “he won’t do that right” or “this looks like he’s…

Frederick Douglass died in 1895.

I considered an IUD but instead I’m going to twist What’s-His-Name’s arm and DEMAND that he get a vasectomy. I’ve been kind of half-assedly suggesting it for the past few years but now I’m determined that HE will be in charge of the non-baby-having part of the equation. I’ve been avoiding it for 26 years now except…

Yep, you get what you pay for.

In a way Mayor Sandy Stimpson was a microcosm of the Trump phenomenon: an outsider businessman who ran against the first black man to hold the office with promises of unity (rather than the divisiveness of recognizing that racism exists and we have to do better) and business friendliness (because it was so hostile…

Oh he’s not delusional. He doesn’t have much faith. But if enough constituents call and write to them, it’s bound to make a difference.