Hmmm, I’m 30 and sadly, my experience supports callmelater’s description. Maybe it’s a generational thing? Every man I meet near my age is basically awful in some huge and unexcusable way. And most of the men I’ve met are never actually looking for an emotional connection, but are instead pretending that they are in…

Three days ago I went on a date with a friend of mine. At the end of the date he kissed me, not platonically, and then we parted. Later that night he texts to say he just wants to be friends because he’s also started seeing someone else. I say that’s fine but the kiss confused me. He says he thought I wanted him to…

This. When I was sexually harassed at work and reported it, my office manager said “well, he couldn’t have meant anything by it. He’s a married man!” Because married men never do anything wrong. Luckily, my boss was a no nonsense woman who had worked in government since the 70s and seen it all, and immediately rolled…

To relate to you, when I was 16 I was in a writing program at a UC college. One of my instructors kept writing in the margins of my stories that I “seemed lonely.” He jotted down his personal number, with an offer to grab pizza or a movie, or just a night in at his place. There were 20 ish kids in the program…

Exactly. Patriarchy fucks with men, too. A whole lot of the sociopathic tendencies that this person is seeing in men are (in the absence of true pathology) a function of how they were raised (in a patriarchal environment). Toxic masculinity doesn’t exist in a vacuum - it’s repeatedly driven into people’s heads over…

“Women are all ugly stupid slutty bitch whores and I hate them! Why do they keep rejecting me it makes no sense.”

Yes! All of this! It messes us up to the extent that you don’t know how to feel or behave when they fuck with past events. And yet they’re able to recall them when it is convenient to do so - when they want to switch the narrative yet again.

So many men can look you straight in the eye and say they didnt do/say/act something they blatantly did. Women probably can do the same but men really seem to lie with a level of commitment where I think they’ve actually completely compartmentalised what they did. Like they actually don’t remember what they did until…

To quote a really creepy teammate yelling at my friend back in college,

I believe the persecution complex goes something like: “Those girls are total sluts, they sleep around with all of the in-dudes so they can get a leg up, and all they care about is looks! They’re so shallow and slutty. If they were sincere, good people, and took a second to see how good and genuine and funny I am,…

Because if they’re not having sex with him, they are clearly and obviously putting out for anyone and everyone else. It’s that simple. It’s like the weirdest extrapolation of the Madonna/Whore complex you can imagine.

i love that somehow NOT sleeping with somebody (ie this sad little man screamer) makes somebody a slut. like, if *he* had fucked them, they somehow would be purer than choosing to fuck another guy? bitch please.

It is, and it’s cyclical toxic masculinity in play. Guy is indoctrinated to judge himself by his acceptance by women, he turns them into objects, first objects to worship, and then when rejected by them, objects to hate.

He’s gotta stop doing this to himself.

And other men.

I’ll say this, the “fake gamer” is a real thing, but it isn’t restricted to women. People are drawn to these platforms because of the capacity to make money, and they’ll happily adopt any persona that will get them access to that revenue. I personally know one woman and three dudes who had no interest in games until…

In his mind, he’s “owed” women because he was rejected in the past, probably because of his shitty ass attitude.

Pretty sure that pretty much sums up the entire internet.

You can’t imagine how mortified I was when I had to admit to my friends and family that my girl friend of 3 years was, in fact, a woman.

I had a woman parent. Can you imagine how embarrassed I was, worried my friends would find out?!

Don’t you know?

...the same sluts that rejected us, the same sluts that chose the god damn cool kids over us...