That was never my issue

I never stated that her emotions weren't valid and I never called her selfish.

Maybe I do need some work but at least I haven't hijacked three young children and then subject them to my inability to cope when my live in boyfriend of 8 months bolts on me.

Sure, that is probably some thoughtful advice and after observing the shit storm I created...which does not match my intentions...clearly my delivery needs work.

Only from what I've read here and in a couple of other articles I've read on other sites.

Word

No this is how I feel

You're over simplifying my position

Why bring up the maintaing her current family size?

When did I call her selfish?

Interesting

I have empathy for her children who have no say in the matter

I'm glad it all worked out for you and yes I'm very proud of my life choices.

He wasn't her husband he was a boyfriend who had lived with her and her young children for only 8 months

I feel very strongly that if you have three children your primary concern should be to parent not having a stupid boyfriend and especially having him move in with you. Three children is more than I could ever handle ( I don't even have one) she has a tough journey ahead of her.

No I'm being sincere

You're probably right

I have mixed feelings reading this.

What the hell is wrong with this guy?

I'm one of the lucky ones