Please don’t assume (especially based on a few flippant Internet comments) that you have any idea how much work someone is doing on themselves and their flaws. I have been in hard-core weekly therapy for three solid years but I still make the same stupid mistakes sometimes. It doesn't mean I'm not trying. It means…

Yes, it was sarcastic (and aimed at the people leaving you totally unhelpful and unempathetic advice). I’m not great at sarcasm, apparently.

Well clearly the answer is not to slowly but surely continue the extremely difficult and pretty much lifelong work of challenging the negative thought patterns that have been imprinted in your brain by crippling depression, anxiety, and social phobia, so that some day you can develop the courage and social skills to…

I love cats. I also love the color beige (well, if we're talking BEST color, I'd go with more of a greyish taupe, but close enough). I have weird opinions and I'm okay with that. But I'm also okay with this post. I'm okay with a lot of things, tbh. It's only cats and taupe I get passionate about.

There’s a difference in distress that’s like “god it’s hard being asexual sometimes, I wish I was more normal because then I would be more societally accepted and have an easier time finding a partner” — the kind of distress that’s pretty typical for asexual people (like me!) versus the distress of HSDD which (I…

Do you know what showerhead you’re using, by any chance? I have a handheld head, but it doesn’t seem to have a ‘massage’ setting so I can never get quite enough pressure.

The pain is bodywide, unfortunately, but if I could find a method that at least hurt LESS, that would be a win, so I’ll try this out! Thanks!

You rock, thanks for the rec! I’ve actually been searching for something like this all week, but everything I found was cheap and poorly reviewed. Time to start saving up so I can treat myself. :)

That was my first masturbation experience, and definitely still the most fun! Although it’s cramped in my current bathtub — I’m hoping to get a nice big soaking tub soon.

I hear you. I have nerve compression issues so most touching (in the genital area or anywhere else) just feels like nothing at first due to the numbness, then it progresses to painful. With vibes I’ve had more luck but it’s still hit or miss sometimes. I hope you’re able to find some relief soon.

Thank you so much! I definitely get the arm fatigue thing so that sounds like it could be really helpful. I'd love to hear what your lightweight vibe was too if you happen to remember the name later. :)

Not as much as I should be using, probably! I definitely need to go get a nice new bottle and do some experimenting.

Thank you so much for the advice. “Having orgasms is more important than not having them” — I needed to hear that. :)

That’s very helpful, thank you!

Idk if this is really a common enough problem for you to write about in your series, but due to chronic pain/sensory issues, I have trouble masturbating with my hands — or rather, tolerating the repetitive rubbing sensation long enough to reach orgasm. Even the good stuff starts to hurt after a few minutes. Is using a…

Well, clearly these women are only lesbians because they haven’t met Michael Westen yet.

Whereas the award for most obnoxiously sung number goes to 877-CASH-NOW.

Does anyone know of an app like this for identifying fish/marine life? I feel like a jerk having to ask more experienced divers to ID everything I see underwater.

So for those of us with joint laxity — can someone explain the “stability training” that link recommends for us to deal with our trigger points rather than stretching? Is it just the exercise ball/balance board/etc core training stuff I’m already doing? Because I’m not seeing much improvement in my muscle tightness…

I now understand Ariel falling in love with Eric after one meeting, because I have fallen in love with you after one comment thread.