The point is intimidation. It’s a staggering amount, as you noted. It’s an amount that can ruin a life. It’s a threat of obliteration.

It’s a good ol boys club where I work. Our president is charming but I have seen him lose his temper and it is chilling. My own boss first sexually harassed me, when I continued to refute his advances he became verbally abusive (“You dont know how to play the game! You should be sucking my cock!), then graduated to…

I finally learned after working in several different places that the best thing you can do as a woman in office settings is never volunteer for “gendered” stuff (ie: decorating, throwing the birthday party, buying and circulating the retirement card, etc.). And if they ask you to do it, either decline if you can or…

Fucking thank you!

It happened at my children’s Catholic school at the hands (mouth) of their verbally abusive basketball coach. I complained to the athletic director: nothing. Brought it to the Principal: more nothing. Everyone is terrified of this man and no one will stand up to him or the AD. I hate it. And now, I know my family…

I’ve taken the bitch path too. Or rather, it’s on a sliding scale. My current job isn’t too bad and I’m merely the salty one of the bunch. I have a strict no hugging policy, don’t really talk about my personal life, etc. It sucks sometimes to be so closed off, but I’ve also found that those that are likely to be…

Actually the rage is an indulgence. When I tell people at work...it’s like “what’s the bigs, he is right”. I swear.

Oh HELL FUCKING NO he didn’t give you the speech he gave his 18 year old daughter. Please tell me you let him know how fucked up that was. Just know there are people here raging on your behalf. Fuckkkk that.

My mother was verbally abusive to her secretaries and I remember as a kid one of them crying in the kitchen. But I was told that she was allowed to be, because of her skill and status, and everyone else had to “toughen up.” It’s fucked. I grew up with this kind of shit but still can’t handle it

I was like 3 or 4 years in before I experienced it. Initially, my boss liked me because I called him on his bullshit. He really was my mentor and helped me pay off my student loans and buy my first house but my salary was low. It was all part of his need for control. I finally got to a point where I felt like even if…

This is not just show business. This is people. When others feel like they are better than or have control over people, this is, sometimes, how they behave. And you will always find someone to take the abuse as people have to eat.

I think this is a really important point about junction of the potential payoff for success in the industry being so huge that it enormously incentivizes staying/staying silent about abuse, and how the fact of the potential payoff means the industry self-selects individuals who are willing to do anything to find their…

I have an older brother who loves sports and statistics so I grew up knowing I would be a sportscaster. (This is old school) I decided to move to Phoenix to attend University because at the time basketball was king and the Suns were doing well. I got an amazing internship at a local station. I got to see so many…

RAGE STROKE.

Who? I think you should say. It doesn’t do much good to confess these things in vague terms, because it doesn’t change anything when people don’t know who you’re speaking about.

Amen. I took the “bitch” path. They don’t like me but I am still employed and make more $ than my “say nothing back” peers. (Not that there is anything wrong with that, I envy them, their day may be more tolerable)

I was told to suck it up, and reminded of the number of people waiting for my position.

agreed. For weeks since the Weinstein thing broke, I’ve been thinking about Bryan Singer and how much he deserves to go down.

Remember the fat, gross, abusive guy that Tom Cruise played in Tropic Thunder? That character was based on Weinstein.

It’s still very much a man’s world, and HW was not a special snowflake in his terrible behavior. I’ve come to the conclusion that women have only two choices when it comes to enduring workplace misogyny, harassment, and bullying: be a total fucking bitch from the start or be a guy. There’s rarely a scenario where…