Yep. Porn is male hate speech and male violence towards women. I will not associate with men who use porn. Most of my friends are women, since women see me and treat me like a human being.

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That's not what I said. I said I've seen Indian women, both those with experience with the U.S. and those without, saying they think porn has made things worse. It is not conclusive, but at least one of them is highly educated and extremely intelligent. I am interested in what they're saying. Do you think they should…

It doesn't matter if the actual creation of a video was consensual, it still depicts the abuse of women outside of consent context.

Right! I know a woman who argued that Sasha Grey LOVED getting spat on and punched in the stomach while having sex with multiple men, because some people just like to push boundaries! When I looked SG up on Google I discovered she got out of porn within two years and has not gone back. She loved it that much...

You genuinely think this horrible stuff in India didn't go on before there was porn? It went on, it was just considered so mundane they didn't even report onto it until feminism has reached them in the past few decades.

Yeah, I'm a bit more conflicted re. porn than pepitas, but I do feel like sex-positive feminism is hostile to women who genuinely aren't up for anything. And it totally ignores women in the asexual group. I feel like I'm betraying all women just because I'm grey asexual/demisexual.

That's not how I read their post. Basically, there's a difference between a rare fetish that involves violence practiced between two consenting adults, and normalizing said fetish in a medium in which consent is unknown at best and really fucking suspect at worst.

I don't know, I don't think empowering women by doing porn is empowering women, it's empowering yourself at the expense of women.

I've been disturbed by this trend in gay porn for awhile and I could explain it away by saying, "Oh it's just the Japanese and Eastern Europeans, their trends aren't indicative of anything". But now the mainstream gay studios are even starting to feature more of the violent, rapey, prolapsey stuff now too. DAMN YOU…

Thank you! I will admit I do sometimes use porn to aid in my uh, efforts, but I am mighty picky. I need the woman involved to actually appear to be enjoying herself and ya know, have her blow job reciprocated. I recently sent a video I liked to my boyfriend and he's like, "That does it for you?" Like I had said, "No,…

As someone into BDSM, it is incredibly hard to find BDSM porn that has any kind of visible relationship between the participants. I so rarely see anything resembling aftercare or a dom checking in with the sub. And forget any talk of consent or limits. I've stopped looking at porn in general almost entirely because…

So you're saying no one said that Belle Knox—who even says she was assaulted and hurt in ways she did not give permission for—was "empowered" by her rape? Come on. That's what's happening here—people say a porn shoot that involved assault and rape was empowering if a college student who doesn't have an actual gun to…

Exactly. I have to go looking for non violent porn. And forget finding simply non violent p in v only with no facial porn.

The pain is actually one of the marketing points. The banner ads often feature women literally crying. The violence against women in pornography has always been subtle but now it's overt. There is no denying it.

I'm pretty sure guys finishing by blasting you in the face is STILL considered repulsive by the majority of women. And yet that hasn't stopped it from being requested/demanded all the damn time.

Rosebudding may not be so normal yet but this is the third article I've read on the topics so it's definitely becoming more acceptable or common. Also porn that features women being choked, slapped, gagged and gang banged has become almost ubiquitous these images will be front and center on most porn sites.

The quick wit we've come to expect from Honey Boo Boo