I think you’ve hit on a really interesting point regarding allies (or potential allies) being willing to listen, being willing to try - and therefore bearing much of the frustration that we can’t express to someone who would be outright dismissive of women’s issues. There’s a frustration with being someone who hasn’t…

I 100 percent grant that women know more about this shit than I do. But the person I listen to most is my wife (a feminist woman of color, for what that’s worth in this conversation), and her responses to the MeToo stuff differs depending on the situation. For example, she thought that the Anzari stuff was overblown,…

Yeah, I agree with you. Because identity is important in these conversations: I’m a white, Jewish woman and have been described as a “strident” feminist. But in all of the victim/oppressor conversations happening right now, we seem to expect perfection from any conversant whose multi-faceted identity includes a facet…

I’ve become more and more frustrated with ally policing. Not because I can’t take it, or because I’m going to join men’s rights activists or something because I get my feelings hurt by feminists or whatever. But mostly because: 1) I think it’s really ineffective; 2) I have a lot of respect for women and members of…

I really appreciate this line of thinking but have no idea where it leads. To get away from gender for just a second let’s use animal rights. I’m a meat eater, but I’m increasingly sure the activists are right that we’re all supporting an almost incomprehensible empire of suffering. I don’t feel capable of becoming…

Yeah, and that’s ... also wrong.

I run on the assumption that most people, whatever gender, are selfish pricks that mostly act in their own short-term interest.

It’s hard to say whose apologies are genuine, and whose are not. But, to say, “I’m embarrassed, and she was sitting right there” and “This is a big learning moment for me” is, I think, a pretty decent reflective statement.
I think Sarah Silverman said it best when she asked, “Can you love someone who did bad things?”…

I’ve heard people are totally ready to cancel Bateman since his apology. I feel like we are failing to distinguish between the men who commit sexual assault and the rest of the male population.

Not for nothing, but he didn’t tag her in the Tweet, so he didn’t actually hit her up. I took his statement to mean he didn’t know it would blow up so he didn’t think she’d see it.

I’m trying to reply to everyone who replied to me but Kinja is acting like an idiot. When I say Ansari’s punishment didn’t fit the crime some of you said “what punishment” or “there was no punishment”, the Babe article was a punishment to everyone involved including the woman who deserved to have her story told by…

“I like how she thinks and I think she just said something that most people agree with but can’t say publicly because it’s not the ideologically acceptable feminist response to #metoo.”

I don’t see any reason why they can’t continue being artists. Now, whether they’re popular artists or not is up to the audience.

This is one of a very few areas where I am comfortable unhesitatingly bringing up Adolf Hitler and comparing a situation to the third reich. German cities do not install statues of Hitler because he was a leader who implemented public works programs and oversaw a groundswell of national pride, although I guess one…

Look. Listen. You can either have the United States of America flag or the failed Confederate States of America flag, but you can not have both. It just doesn’t stand to reason. Pick one, racists.

I think it is more like:

Yikes. 1) Nina Turner is absolutely a mess and has been since the 2016 primaries; 2) The scorched earth campaigning against less than perfectly left wing candidates is why I can’t get behind this people even though I support their policies; 3) Bernie thinks they’re doing A-Okay according to that article, which jives…

Becoming what we oppose just to win is the same as losing. 

People don’t want to “overthrow” party establishment; they want to become it. Because that’s what happens if you succeed, you take on that mantle. It has been, is, and will always be a question of control and power.

A source tells E! the two “met through friends at a dinner party and hit it off” earlier this year. Said another source, “He was a billionaire. She, uh, wasn’t. Can I make it any more obvious?”