No no no. They were way, way more important than us. After all they were mennnnnnn! Mom had boyfriends that straight up proposed to me after they broke up and she never batted an eyelash. I remember once this guy came to pick her up for a date, and asked me if I’d had my period yet. She just made this face and then…

Ah, mom’s boyfriends. What an education.

By the time some people realize that, they already have kids. Other people wait and wait for the “right time” until the hour gets late, and they say fuck it maybe I’ll never be rich but at least I can have some kids. These are not evil people.

I disagree that it creates a stigma. I am a parent that sent her kids to daycare this early and was comfortable with it. I don’t feel stigmatized by this.

The whole “the civil war was mostly about economics and only partly about slavery” is actually a really common presentation - that’s how they taught it in my otherwise pretty liberal high school as well.

Yeah it’s so strange. I’m almost like, maybe we should give him props for actually studying history on his own since he obviously did not receive a basic education which would have provided context and consequence for this event.

I completely agree the headline is total clickbait. Can’t say it’s unique in that aspect so I tend to ignore things like that. I guess my sticking point is that I, personally, feel that in this instance, if Karl had been home with his mom, this wouldn’t have happened. Just based on the details as they’ve been…

I think you’re looking at this through the eyes of a parent who chose to leave their kids in daycare with no worries, and overly worried about how offended they might be by the implication that it may be dangerous. I don’t really understand why - humans leave their babies with others at a young age all the time and…

Yes babies die under the care of amazing parents and excellent caregivers. I was citing that instance as an example where a mother’s intuition woke her from sleep to check on her baby. In the article, caregivers failed to check on a child which they noticed was acting strangely during his nap. While that does not make…

Hmm, my daycare provider was really into the idea, and the places that offer it around here seem identical in terms of morale. The reality behind these cameras is that even if they want to, a parent can’t watch them all day while they are working, they can only check in and get a quick bit of peace of mind. I’d…

Yeah there’s no way to ignore it it’s like someone is running a chainsaw next to your face.

The technology exists but you have to pay for it. Daycares with this service are out of my price range in my area. I actually offered to buy all the equipment for my provider to set it up but by the time it was time to move on it we had already become comfortable with her.

Oh jeez. I come from an all female household which was a complete failure really and I always tell myself that because I have both a son and a daughter, things will go differently for me! Wishful thinking at its absolute worst. I should really just off myself when they are 12 and 13... (JK!!!)

I don’t know but we have dogs and my kids are capable of sleeping through their barking, so maybe it’s true!

I absolutely agree. Even though I lived next door to my daycare provider and knew her for many months before I sent my kids to her, I still visited many local daycares while I was pregnant and damn. Some of them still haunt me, and parents had their kids there! Choices can be slim for many of us, it’s very true.

It’s true the tickling of the palms evolved over time, once I knew what would and wouldn’t wake them :). NEVER WAKE THE BABY DAMMIT.

Ha it’s the same with my boyfriend and me. The kids can be screaming and losing their shit he’s sleeping like a rock and I’m out of my mind. Factoid: when I got pregnant for the first time I noticed that for the first time in my life, the sound of a newborn crying seemed sweet and beautiful, whereas up until that…

But for a parent there is not a whole lot of distinction between “any place but home” and a negligent caregiver. You do visits and you try to go on your gut, but you never know how a provider behaves when you’re not around. You won’t really have a sense of what level of care your kid is receiving until they’ve been…

I think your argument here is legit, but upthread someone tells the tale of how their mother checked on them when they were a sleeping infant and found them not breathing, turning blue. She only checked because of her instinct. The woman in this article did not feel comfortable turning her 3 month old over to a…

Yup. My kids are 2.5 and 10 months and I don’t really sleep at night. I’m always slightly awake.