we can’t just blithely accept the idea that all women have come to BDSM and rape fantasies in healthy, non-damaging ways

I’ve been raped. My soul and dignity are both doing just fine.

You completely missed the mark on that one. You don’t have to be naive and perfect to realize that not all men rape women. And this is totally the place to mention that. How dumb can you be, christ.

Well aren’t you just a ball of pessimism.

You are hanging around with the wrong crowd then. There’s lots of good men out there, but they aren’t fodder for news articles. Get some therapy if you need it, and keep trying to be one of the good ones.

I didn’t read that as #notallmen, I though the comment was addressed at nycyclist his/herself, that being a survivor shouldn’t mean you won’t ever love and trust anyone again and that there are good people out there too.

Jesus, speak for yourself, man.

Bitch, please.

Not true. Men are not a rape bomb waiting to go off. No way. Absolutely not. Absolutely men are worthy of trust. Absolutely teach your sons about consent. Absolutely teach your daughters and sons about the difference between rape and consent. Totally disagree with this comment.

It’s naive not to think every man is a rapist? What?

Please, keep saying this. Say it over and over again until people get it. Sigh.

Because consensual BDSM play has nothing to do with actual rape. Many sex-positive feminists engage in BDSM without it conflicting or cancelling out their feminist politics.

Lots of women have rape fantasies. Please remember that kink shaming is not okay, and neither acting in nor viewing videos simulating rape is an endorsement of actual rape.

There are genuinely nice people out there, dude. Stay safe, but don’t lock yourself in a tower.

That’s so remarkably dark that I have to, in a rare moment, disagree with you.

As someone who was abused by a prominent member of the BDSM community and deleted my social media accounts because I couldn’t handle seeing him praised as a “feminist”, I’m awed by Stoya’s bravery. I hope she gets all the support she deserves.

Shit. :/

I’m pretty sure it was Sherlock that suggested the boxing match to Watson? Not that I have any issues with her solving any of her problems by beating people up. I dig it.

It really does, doesn't it? How dirty could her hair be to give her three different infections? Does she swim in open sewage?

This seems...super unlikely to me. Like, was it so tight it was injuring the skin on its own? Did she already have an open cut or something there? What the FUCK was she doing with that hair tie that would get enough virulent bacteria on it to cause that kind of serious infection? IDK, this sounds like urban legend…