No joke I’m crying now. I can’t deal with that scene without falling to pieces.

I saw it twice and cried through it both times. An old lady leaned over at the end of my second viewing and said “It was good, but it wasn’t THAT good.” She is super wrong.

You don’t owe him anything. He’s welcome to build a beautiful and functional life for himself and maybe at some point then you might be generous and let him demonstrate that he is well, repentant, and changed. If not, hey, he fixed his shit- for himself.

I’d be hoping I brought my biggest purse.

I am deeply annoyed by the asymmetrical hemline.

Word. My mom used to slap me and yell at me for stealing my dad from her. Because he was raping me. She knew it, and she was... jealous.

My husband and son are also autistic. My husband has complained about the very same things you’ve said here, so I guess this a common enough problem? My husband told me that when hearing a problem, his only concern is finding the best possible (researched) solution, and he can’t tell the difference between a…

I’m not doing okay. I thought I was, and everything seemed like it was coming up unicorns and rainbows- it turns out that was hypomania and not reality. Reality is that in my delighted state I spent all my money on fabric and my account is $500 overdrawn. I wish they’d have declined my card before the fucking 500…

Same. My Google maps keeps crashing :( Now I mapquest directions just in case my phone craps out.

My autistic son is terrified of the auto flush. I say a prayer going into a public bathroom with him that the flusher will be manual.

All the hugs my friend. You need a new therapist that is not a raging asshole. That was a traumatic event and those don’t just go away on their own. It’s time to start building new, healthy relationships with people who you can trust, who respect you, and who will make you feel secure in your place in the world. How…

I think it’s probably not worth it based on your description of her. Also, if you have a good relationship with your MIL, and it sounds like you do, your daughter can have a close relationship with a grandma. That’s what we’ve done. My MIL is a lovely woman and she is the only grandparent in my kids’ lives and it has…

Honestly, we moved 12 hours away. When we were estranged but living in the same smallish town I had a constant anxiety that I would run into them. Their church friends would harass me at Panera Bread. Her coworkers would come to the Starbucks I worked at and order a drink solely to spend that time telling me how awful…

I am SO happy that you’ve got some peace! The drama and temporary pain from the split is worth it to have that peace for the rest of your life. It’s freedom.

I get that. When my younger brother still lived with my parents I was hesitant to cut them off and risk losing siblings that might need help getting out, too. If you can talk to a therapist about it, and also ask your sisters if they feel safe and respected at home, I think that might get you to a place where you know…

Good. I hope they win a bajillion dollars and buy all the wine.

I never get tired of this subject. (Not even just weddings, but cutting bad relatives out of our lives.) Out and about in in the world estranged adults of awful parents don’t have a lot of positive opportunities to talk about the estrangement, and it is so freeing to be able to be honest with our friends, coworkers,…

Thank you for this. I’m very much in that position right now with a friend that complains endlessly but doesn’t want to hear advice. I think I can use this advice to deal with her kindly.

Oh for fucks sake. I shouldn’t be surprised I guess. Thanks for filling me in. I’m going to drown my frustration with Ben and Jerry’s.

My husband and I were both way more attractive when we met, and back then we fucked like rabbits. We wanted each others bodies deeply. Now we have two kids and we’ve both gained weight and neither of us is really very sexually attracted to the others body. We aren’t really comfortable with our own bodies right now,…