i truly believe the reason is because the connotation is to suggest they are disposable fucks who can’t even be considered men

Kara, your whole piece and your comments here are just not correct at all. Black rappers appropriated this word from influential (often white) gay men to be used as a homophobic joke. Many of the earliest usages in music are blatantly derogatory. It’s absolutely disgusting that you now say only black people have the…

If you read my original post you’ll see that I have ethnic hair and am Puerto Rican. So I’m part of the “we” you’re referring to. In my own life, I haven’t found people asking about my hair to be a racist thing and so I was trying to start a dialogue. There’s nothing wrong about talking about things across…

To be fair, unchill defensiveness is kind of her thing.

Yeah, but she chose the wrong word to make this all about. It is a bona fide rant. And she’s right, but not really about “fuckboy.”

Same here - an old who referred to pretty, yet kinda dumb boys who were good for a screw but not someone you wanted to spend time with outside of bed. AKA slampiece.

I’m not sure I understand the strong push to own the usage of such a nasty term. Language is fluid, people appropriate words and usage everyday.

For the record, I grew up using fuckboy to refer to a “soft” or “weak” male, but I’ve heard women - black and white - use it to mean both a valued boy toy and a smash-and-dash…

Or maybe you might be wrong.

Well how do you feel about black people igonring William Shakespeare when the use the word “swag”? After all, he was the one to coin that term.

You’re right. Just like “shade”, black people appropriated it from the gay community and now act like they own it exclusively. It’s hilarious.

It is one of the more grating fallacies of her writing when it comes to co-opting of POC culture.

Legacy protection ain’t easy, eh, Dre?

Can confirm. I had a ‘fuckboy’ in college in the early 90s

Yeah. I agree that it can have more than one meaning. But, I don’t like that the entire piece tries to claim it as original to this particular set of folks. That term has been around forever and probably changed meanings as it’s cycled through various communities. But, again...it wasn’t coined in the Upper East Side…

I don’t know—I think this term has been used commonly among white people for a looooong time—but just to mean something different (a piece of ass). The thing that has changed among white people is the meaning (which has moved somewhat closer to the meaning used in hip hop/the black community—but seems to be something…

The amount of shit being slung at you for the crime of realizing you had a personal connection to the story and remarking on it is kind of astounding.

well he has no ankles

This a million times. People forget that your bridal party is doing YOU a favor. I cannot believe the expectations people are ok placing on people because it’s your wedding. I remember having this conversation with a recently engaged girl I know: