This, exactly. I was really puzzled when I got to the part about the chronically ill person being a bad friend! It’s not just that communication on social media is low stakes; it’s that if you’re friends with an abled person, constantly talking to them about your disability can be exhausting (and, perhaps, even…

Yikes, this is a pretty gross take in addition to all your others.

if you care about your friends, learn about their illnesses and how they affect them. Learn about how other people are figuring out how to live happy lives. And learn to accept that not everyone is going to be able to do all the things you want to do, all the time, especially when they’re unwell. It’s an actual,…

There are a lot of people who accuse others of being a bad friend but literally never do the work to understand that friend’s limitations and constantly ignore the friend’s signals to do something else. They’re bad friends. 

Let me also point this out in BIG NEON LETTERS FOR YOU: Socializing on the internet does not equate to socializing in real life in actual situations no matter how you want to think about it, and it does NOT equate to being well. there are plenty of agoraphobe shutins who are all over the internet. There are PLENTY of…

No, she’s expecting her friend to be like she was. What’s really irking me is how many people are automatically assuming the friend is not doing her work. Here’s the thing: even when you’re DOING THE WORK you’re still experiencing symptoms. It’s absolutely unfair to expect her friend to want to be just like she was in…

I’ve experienced them myself, and that’s all you need to know. Please stop with the hostile and intrusive line of inquiry, thank you. 

Why would she give anything to a friendship that doesn’t value her and acknowledge/appreciate where she is? again, this isn’t a choice she’s making, it’s a legit medical condition. we all go through shit. we need validation and encouragement, not necessarily saviors, you know? treat her like a friend and do some work…

Black women have no sense of self preservation. They continue to March on the frontlines and support a collective of men who love nothing more than to publically disrespect and disparage the very image of black women. Yet BW continue to defend and support BM and receive nothing but Black males ire and abuse in return.…

The Brangelina divorce getting ugly was karma for what they both did to Jennifer Aniston.

I feel a little for the first guy. Not because of his girlfriend, but because his insecurities are eating him alive. Very early in the letter, he says he assumes she resents him because he passed his exam while she didn’t. There’s no reason for him to think that. They’re not in the same field, which means they…

DON’T YOU FUCKING DARE.

If you dont tell your wife you take away her choice and her power to resolve this. No one here get’s to make that choice for her including the letter writer.

Damn. This.
I ended a relationship after I realized that the “forgive me” story just didn’t add up. It was too Pollyanna: cheating on the periphery. Everything wasn’t as bad as all that. Questioning was shut down with an assertion that I needed to “trust them” but I couldn’t knowing that the math was all wrong.

“Radical honesty is a horrifying prospect to any right-thinking person”

The main problem with the second approach? People tend to know when you’re lying.

Were there any kind of rides that it was safe to take with Ted Kennedy?

to that episode ofThe West Wing where Bradley Cooper gets obsessed with Television Without Pity—

Yes! I want a quick recipe not a 3,000 word essay on how a simple steak and potato wedges dinner brought your crumbling family back from the brink.

Good points and well said. The Weissmans are the weakest part of this season. I don’t mind Joel as much this season as I have in the past, but I think it’s largely because he’s taking initiative on his own. That being said, he could be removed entirely from the plot and the story would improve drastically. Everything…