She shouldn’t have asked and he shouldn’t have gone. She was acting like he was her boyfriend because she wanted him to be, even though she knew he wasn’t into her like that. She hoped her doing couple stuff (wearing the head scarf to bed, watching Shondaland instead of having sex, talking about her day) would get him…

It’s a bit uncomfortable to discuss this, but I’ve had similar experiences to yours, except I’m a guy. When my wife is in the mood and I’m not, I know that there will be emotional repercussions later if I tell her i’m not into it. So I allow her the opportunity to try to get me into the mood, and usually it works.