He probably did do what he was trained to do. That's the problem.

Welp, this sounds disappointingly familiar. In nicer news, I straightened my hair today and it looks great.

OMG! I adopted my cat from the SF SPCA and even though it wasn't through the holiday outreach, this is totally making me think of how it all went down. I had gone to the SF SPCA to adopt a pet on a Friday after work, and I got there like an hour before they closed. I went around for awhile, checking out the…

How can such cowardly people choose a profession where calm-headedness, bravery, common sense, and a sense of compassion should be requirements for the job?

Goddamn, I love people like the secretary. Sometimes, to be a GOOD person, a truly good person who shows kindness to those most deserving of it but often least empowered to demand it, sometimes, you've GOT to be difficult. Stubborn, "unpleasant" to many- that's how you show kindness to people being walked all over.…

This is SO awesome. I love the "What causes rape?" sign!

Bullseye. This citation of a victim saying "I don't want to get him into trouble" is actually extra damning. One modicum of common sense and you know what that's about. This is all CYA and no concern for victims or the general climate of safety at the school.

What is gruesome about this situation is how unconnected people collude in the further victimization of victims; the university reps "neutrally" guide the student toward non-action; the friends, themselves motivated by concerns about their social standing, guide the victim toward non-action; the family, motivated by…

I have a confession, I married the smelly guy. My husband and I were friends for years before we started dating. For some reason I never realized how much he stunk, until we got together and started spending more time together in 'close proximity'. I was reluctant to throw in the towel right away (though probably…

To be fair though it's still a step above being way to into Hemmingway.

I once went out with a guy who said he was a writer, and since I'm also a writer, I asked who some of his favorite authors were. He said,

When men wear those oversized tank tops where the arm hole goes super low and shows their sides. Especially the homemade from giant t-shirt kind. Pasty side ribcage is not for me.

I just skimmed the article, but shouldn't he be charged with producing / possessing child pornography? Is that happening & if not, *WHY*!?

Fucking Youth Group shit. I know there is bigger fish to fry with this story, but I have YET to encounter a youth group that wasn't full of flat out assholes.

After reading through the horror of the first two girls' stories, my heart broke at the phrase "you know how that goes" that Katie uses when describing saying no and not being able to get away. That phrase conveys the helplessness, the world-weariness, and the sense that not only has she had to fight this before,…

I know, I know. But I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop, the one that has to do with socio-economic status or something like that. If he was a kid from the wrong side of the tracks accused of serially raping the cheerleading squad, my guess is that this conversation would look different. I might be wrong.

A friendly reminder that Title IX applies to all schools that receive federal funding (acknowledging that this graphic is college focused):

I'm terrifying of having a Brian for a son.

I fully agree that teaching kids that their life on social networks should be subdued to real life is very important, but from what I read I don't see Arianna as a particularly vapid teenage girl. She's just posting pictures of her and her very real friends, boyfriend and family just as the vast majority of teenagers…