Yeah. I try to be pretty laid back but this guy was driving me up the wall. The guy I was helping out, he pretty much saved my life when I got out of the military because I was a train wreck, drinking myself into oblivion. Butch gave me a job and that got me the stability to get my shit together, dry out, and get into…

Just about the same thing happened to me while I was working at an aquarium during a summer during undergrad. I was sweeping outdoors, and the parent *pointed* at me - not subtly - while making the delightful and very audible comment. What is wrong with people? I'm a medical student now, but that's not even the point.…

"or the related but only slightly less odious assertion that men will pretend to be trans women just to get into women's restrooms."

I am a male in his 30's and this idea that I need the same stuff from my childhood is weird. I AM NOT EIGHT YEARS OLD ANYMORE. I like different stuff than I did when I was 8. I don't need the stuff I liked in the 1980's endlessly recycled. I can find new stuff!

I support him in his condemnation of transphobia, but can we please retire the phrase "last accepted form of prejudice?" Given how frequently it's used and how diverse the variety of prejudices it's deployed with, I think it's obvious that there are still lots of pretty widely accepted forms of prejudice. We're a…

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It's not a fictional character, though. It's actually me, and every other trans person. That's why the character is even onscreen, and why we're having this discussion in this article here. Trans men and women are real people, and we matter. Getting our gender right is the point. I get your gender right, so have the…

Stanley seems to be guilty of this kind of cluelessness often. And she works for the NYT where they are supposed to employ editors and fact checkers to avoid this kind of shit.

What? She used the exact wrong terms. It isn't that she used a slightly less preferred term, her words were the opposite of correct. She isn't a YouTube commenter, she is a paid NYT writer.

At least he is ASKING. That appears to be a step she skipped.

Unfortunately I don't think you can expect most people to know technical terms like "misgendered", but she could have written something like "a transgender woman who came out to her family after living her whole life as a man".

But...she's a journalist? Aren't journalists supposed to do research before they write stuff? Or are we going to continue holding journalists to a lower standard?

You know, if you suspend this critic's past offenses (see: angry black lady-gate), and give her the benefit of the doubt, then she's guilty of a clueless typo. But then you realize that she works for what is traditionally considered to be the country's most important paper of record and the "liberal media's" strongest…

So she does have a proofreader and/or fact checker and they can't do their job either?

My husband still needs to ask if the gender in "transgender man/woman" refers to their gender identity or their gender as assigned at birth. But he doesn't know anything about the trans community and certainly isn't being paid to write articles even tangentially related to it. It's not hard to fact check things before…

Hey, I also live in the middle of the country!

I had a vasectomy, I didn't have to have my wife sign off on anything to get that. Granted, I of course consulted her and it was a decision we made together (easy decision, we don't want kids, evar), but just another example of #Maleprivilege. #NotAllDudesWithVasectomies

Funny, not too long ago I was having a convo with my mom about birth control and getting the tubes tied. I don't want kids, and my mom is very supportive of that. I have a Mirena and no plans for a tubal.

Nope. Read what I wrote. If a man doesn't want to pay support he can keep his sperm to himself.