Yea, im in the midst of rereading the feminine mystique so the “reproduction being the gateway to human/ feminine completeness and adulthood” vibe hit me strong in also rereading this article today.

Yep thats what bothered me. It needed different headings to be more accessible. Needed to be framed more as “shit i learned in my transition to parenthood that you might find useful too”

I always thought of it as the “not trying but not NOT trying method”

I was a kid who was shitty and did not talk to their mom who paid for 40k a year for school and it was essentially because i WAS in a ditch somewhere, and i STRONGLY promote the establishing of a weekly check in. Just make sure kiddo feels safe telling you even if things arent always going so well, and if it comes to…

Yep. And Even with anonymity in mind, this prob is so common even with the details. Which is great because if good advice is given in response there are plenty of people it could help,or who might read it and feel less alone/like failures.

Also, in regards to the critiques, think its fine she wrote to a national advise column about it because its a really common problem many people might want help /advice on and That is the entire point of the advise column genre. She didnt give a name, and this is literally such a common thing it could apply to a…

I agree. And it sounds like the mom is just trying to get a word of advice for the best way to go forth, maybe has some slef awareness that she is being too pushy for this kid but She probably did not have this experice with the older daughter and is at a loss. Not everyone is a perfect parent and shes admitting that…

Its like its a “holding place” ... thats what creeps me out about it. Like they are saying shes actually incomplete and awaiting her true self or something.

I think her body looks fuckin hot in that picture! She is clearly very healthy and fit in a normal person way and I love it!

Carnation caned sweetened condensed milk is the tits in coffee. My mom and I buy it as a special coffee treat when we have a girls weekend together.

Yes! Picard! That's why he had that familiar look!

Oh how I love it when men explain music to me! Especially when I say I like a song/band/genre and they immediately quiz me on random trivia associated with it. #alwayshavingtoprovemyselfinmusic

Dayummmm. I hope everyone lands on their feet and we can keep up with their work elsewhere very soon. It is sad to see folks go, esp when many have become so much a part of the thriving community of discussion here.

*sigh* BCO/kitchenette is my favorite spot here! Too soon, indeed.

Wait... Pinkham is gone??? I have been off the grid! Scrambling for updates!

That’s awesome! and great because you still get the value of social time with other babies for the little one, but more personalized/flexible childcare!

Nanny share? What is this magical concept? It sounds genius.

Not prying at all! I haven’t, but now I probably will - thanks for the advice! I admit to not always being the best medical self advocate, and am bad at nutting up to ask questions so having a direction / talking points when I go to the doc really helps, even if the problem ends up lying elsewhere it's helpful to get…

I am in the group of ladies this pill would have helped and I was really amped when I read about it a long while ago but am truly dismayed by the reality. Unaffordable, relatively ineffective, dangerous with drinking (if I fall off the wagon which, let's be honest, is statistically likely) , and on and on. BOOO!

I feel ya girl. Also, alcohol as a problem solver here is the worst advice I keep seeing pop up! Alchie here! Hadn’t had sober sex for two years because that was the only way I could feel sexual desire! Booze isn’t the answer for everyone!