I too am way out of the dating pool (and when in, was in a the gay lady dating pool, which is a VERY different dating pool experience...the pool is smaller and the haircuts are asymmetrical-er and all the swimmers are up in each other’s lanes), but the experience of my straight female friends is vicariously extremely…

That is fucked up. I’m way out of the dating pool so I view a lot of this from a distance and sometimes the details are lost. I didn’t know the Cool Girl wasn’t supposed to have too many interests. I can’t believe this is adults dating each other. Don’t you want to spend time with a woman who is sophisticated and…

When I was actively dating, I developed this weird complex about myself because I am definitely “the complicated girl,” in the sense of having thoughts and feelings and opinions and a history and passions. I am not chill. I will never be chill. And I’m ok with that now, but for a long time, I was worried that I’d get…

Man, as much as I want my relationship to continue to work for more nice, loving reasons (like I love him and would be crushed if we ever stopped making it work) sometimes I read comments like this or hear similar things from my friends and end up thinking “My God, it has to work because I cannot be out in whatever…

It’s such an irritating trope: the “Cool Girl”. It’s so easy to tar a woman with that brush of being “needy” or “complicated” because she has thoughts and opinions and stuff. Blech.

You mean the old, “Don’t be needy and be clear about wanting to hang out with me at a specific time because I may have stuff going on and don’t want to bother with you at that exact moment, but also don’t be so busy with your own life that you are not available for the exact day/night/weekend I want to hang out?”