Cool Girl Syndrome.

This is my complaint too. I get the standard tropes of mainstream hetero porn are meant to a heightened version of reality — it’s meant to show a fantasy, I get it. But because this type of porn has such dominance (probably because it has the biggest market) it begins to function almost as propaganda. Especially for…

I’m one of those people who honestly just finds it boring as all fuck,

When women rush to defend porn on sites like this it is always transparently performative.

Ugh, and this brings to mind teenage boys and young men joking about ”meat curtains” and “roast beef”. No wonder so many women and girls are self-conscious and obsessed with petite labia. The judgement and joking about it is pervasive. For the longest time, I didn’t even know that some labia looked like that. I can…

I think she has the right to say whatever she damn well wants about this topic.

YAAAAAAAS! I’m not against porn. I’m not even against there being some representations of women being objectified or acted upon (we all have different kinks, and our fantasies aren’t reality), my problem is that it’s almost all of porn. Even if it’s produced with consenting adults, only having one type of…

Not just how men see women, but how women see ourselves. Young girls look, too, and then they get unrealistic ideas about what their bodies “should” look like. Now we have websites like Glamour.com running articles for women saying, “it’s ok to have labia that are uneven, or large, or small...” How would any girl…

Wow, the number of porn-defenders here is pretty damned high.

I find straight porn extremely unsexy, because I’m so turned off by whatever is happening to the woman. It’s definitely not my kink.

The complete unwillingness to even have a conversation about it drives me nuts.

I understand if women do enjoy porn, or want to enjoy it. Some of it is just fine and sexy and healthy, etc. I’m one of those people who honestly just finds it boring as all fuck, but I can see perhaps being interested in the “real” porn in which couples tape themselves, for instance. At least that isn’t…

It’s so knee-jerk, it’s hard to say if there’s any conscious thought behind women’s defense of porn. There’s a definite air of Cool Girl about it, for sure.

As feminists, we are very ON IT — rightly and productively — when it comes to calling out the warping effect, and even damaging effect, that images of women can have on us all. Calling out photo-shopping, for example. But when it comes to images of women in porn, the desire to be sex-positive and avoid anything that…

The idea that the vast majority of Internet porn is “empowering for women” is such bullshit, and such a bizarre feminist stance. Is it some kind of defense mechanism when women say this kind of thing? Kind of like, if they can OWN it, then they won’t have to look at how terrible so much of it is, and how it actually…

Thank you so much for writing this. Almost every comment on this article leaps to the defence of porn and most come in the form of #butnotallporn or #notallpornislikethat
It’s exhausting to find so many people on a feminist site unwilling to admit porn can be harmful and even to deny the words and experiences of a…

I’m definitely not anti-porn, but I will absolutely say that a lot of it that has crossed my path has been frighteningly misogynistic and purposefully degrading to women.

If nothing else, it’s a discussion worth having. The knee-jerk way people will refuse to hear any criticism of porn, saying no no no, it’s nothing but empowering for women- well, it’s damn tiresome. My BIL was in the porn marketing business for a time, much to my sister’s chagrin. She said she noticed a spike in…

I don’t think I can be convinced that porn is healthy for men. Ladies, whose boyfriends/husbands are pornheads, tell me honestly and not the “sex positive, politically correct, men pleasing” version, do your partners porn habits mean great/improved sex with better, more frequent orgasms for you personally?

Genuine question, do you think that boys can be both raised to respect all women and be raised on porn at the same time?