I found out this weekend that a close relative does not believe in evolution. He insists scientists have zero evidence of evolution and any discovered early human remains are hoaxes. He's usually a very pleasant person, but suddenly all logic and reasoning went out the window. Some people just don't want to hear facts…

Me too! I guess people think we should all be super dark-skinned or something. I, too, have had people say racist things about Arabs in front of me thinking I was white and would somehow be OK with their racism. In high school, a teacher asked two students of Indian heritage in our class if they encountered racism…

I spent my life writing in "Middle Eastern/Arab" because it was almost never included! I'm 100% Arab-American but according to the US government I was supposed to be picking white...

Thank you for confirming that I'm not the only one who missed seeing any Woodburians die in the prison. Many of Rob's point's are debatable, but this one was just inaccurate. I think Rick and the gang's scare tactic was the perfect solution to protect the prison without great loss of life. It's clear they are only out…

Thanks. You seem to have the right attitude. I understand it's the bride-to-be's special day and is pretty much the center of her life for the next 6 months, but doesn't make it mine! It's hard to tell certain people that without them getting upset.

Seriously. And can they also give me back a lost vacation day from work that I've been saving up?

You are a very reasonable bride! Honestly, that's what it should be like...make plans that you hope work for everyone but let them decide if they can afford it or not. Our plans were made out to seem mandatory! I was rather gobsmacked.

thanks! Attending late is definitely an option that works better for my job. Before reading all these responses, I was being hard on myself for possibly disappointing the bride-to-be, but I'm starting to convince myself that it's not on me alone. It's a poorly planned party and trip, and I can be an awesome friend and…

I toyed with the idea of leaking the plans to the bride. She is much more reasonable than the MOH, but then I could also be a jerk for spoiling a surprise. I'd rather deal directly with the MOH, who is ultimately responsible for these poopy plans.

Word! My hypothetical future wedding is going to be so low-key and inexpensive. My extended family won't know what to think...and it will be wonderful and I will be happy and not broke.

I agree with you completely. But yes, easier said than done. I'll find the right way to approach it, but based on responses, it's clear I'm not the only person out there who doesn't appreciate unreasonable expectations from a bride/MOH.

I would love a wedding like that. In my family, people seem to think if the wedding is not extravagant, it doesn't count. Showing off your money is part of it as well, which I find off-putting. I find that even people I know without money want the extravagant wedding and feel entitled to that one day of living like…

Thanks for the idea! I think I'll look into paying for her to get a massage while at the hotel. She's a fairly reasonable person, but her MOH (and many of the women in my family) are not. That's family...

Thanks. I think the bride will understand. It's her mom (my aunt) and the rest of my family that will be super judgey and silently disappointed with me. I come from a huge family that puts familial obligations above all else, so a lot of them will think it's worth taking time off work and spending money I don't have…

Glad to hear it worked out well for you! I think she would be understanding, but her mom (my aunt) and other family member may not and will likely be judgey. But that's family for you....

Yikes, $700 dress! It may come down to that to be honest. The money just isn't there .

I think this is a great idea, thanks. No, she is not aware of the rather unfair (and poorly thought out) plans her maid of honor is imposing, and I think she would be pretty annoyed. Things always get tricky when it comes to family, and it feels easier to say no to a friend than a relative.

Are we invited to the same bachelorette party? Because for serious, this is what I am going through right now. When I pointed out how pricey it will be you know what I was told? "Well if you don't get any spa treatments, don't eat expensive dishes and don't drink too much alcohol, it's not really that expensive!"…

UGH, rant time (and I need advice). I'm a bridesmaid and the bachelorette party invite just came out. It's a weekend getaway to a pricey "resort" that will require me to take at least one day off of work to fly because the party starts on a Friday morning. The organizer didn't ask if the plan worked for anyone, she…