Aww, thank you. I've had one message from someone who likes long hair (I think), so there's hope!

You're right, the shyness and lack of sel-confidence are my worst enemies, but they're also the hardest things to change, in my experience. I guess it's easy to see a haircut and the like (I got contact lenses and a new coat recently too) as quick fixes, I just have to hope they help a little bit.

OKCupid does that whole thing where it brings up photos of people on the left with no other information, so I end up clicking on the profiles of people who are totally unsuitable to me just because I find their photo attractive, then being disappointed. So, take it as a compliment I guess?

I've had the "suddenly stope messaging" thing with one woman, and I think it was because it was becoming more and more clear from our correspondence that we weren't actually suitable for eachother. It would have been nice if she had just said that, or something, but even online a lot of people aren't good at…

Hmm, how did I miss this response? I actually agree with you I think, those kinds of comments annoy me too. Perhaps I was just feeling argumentative.

Gonna be honest here, probably not gonna follow your advice unless a longer cut goes horribly wrong and I have start from scratch, but thanks for responding!

Thanks, and I've looked into locks of love.

Hmm, I'm into indie-rock, I guess, though really i'm not that into musice anymore. My brother is into metal and has basically told me to go to metal shows where my hair will be totally normal. There are very few such shows where I live though.

Will consider braids, thanks.

I was a little bit sceptical, but this does seem like a good alternative. I can keep my hair back while not commiting dating-seppuku with a ponytail? You and Velo-vixen are life-savers.

Hmm, man-buns? I'm sceptical, but ok, will look into that. Typing it into google image search wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. The gay porn only started on the third page.

Yup, I am feeling a lot less pressure to get it perfect, since it seems someone will probably like what I end up with.

Sulfates, DevaCurl...cool, noted. Thanks!

This is something I've been thinking about a lot. I feel like my dating pool is already pretty small, since I'm overweight, shy and average height at best. Cutting my hair seems like an easy way to widen it. At the same time, my hair is one of the few interesting things about the way I look, so throwing that away…

David Beckham, pomade, gotcha. And no dreds for me, I love running my fingers through hair too much.

Noting down your advice, thanks. Feel a liiittle weird having so many pictures of Christian Kane and other dudes now saved to my hard drive. I'll hide them in my porn collection, no one will find them there...

Thanks, that's actually good to hear, and the beard is definitely here to stay for the foreseeable future.

Well that's really kind of you to say, but I just checked and "Obesity = BMI of 30 or greater" and "Your BMI: 30". Plus I'm certainly not throwing it off by being too muscly. I don't think of myself as obese but slim I ain't. Either way, the pictures I put up are chosen carefully, even if they are recent.

That's ok, it was 4am here in the UK and I was pretty exhausted from trying to reply to everyone. Plus you pretty much just said what I think whenever I'm not actively trying to stay positive. So, you know, I don't actually disagree with anything you said.

Thanks, that's really kind. At this point doing something with it just so wearing it out is even viable seems to be a good route to go down. Even cutting it to my shoulder-blades would probably be a big improvement.