I mean, I guess it’s possible a trans woman raped her, but there’s no reason to assume that. She is pregnant, after all, so it sure as shit wasn’t a cis woman.

I understood what you said about maternity leave. Yes, they’re both considerations in the workplace, but the similarities end there. Women choosing to have children are harming no one. Men raping women are clearly harming someone with their choices, so the context is completely different. It’s just not an applicable…

I mean, you’d be frustrated too if people kept putting words in your mouth.

My comments are all questioning the efficacy of this policy too. I’ve said it elsewhere to dozens of other people. So maybe read what I actually said before responding?

Hey, you show me a consistent pattern of female medical professionals abusing male patients and I’ll be with you. 

I swear, if I have to explain this to another person I’m going to lose it. I. Am. Not. Advocating. This. Policy. If you actually read the article, that’s a direct quote from the administration of the facility. I am critiquing this policy.

The pattern clearly isn’t as widespread. I also said nothing about female perpetrators. That you extrapolated that I was saying they don’t exist is your failing, not mine.

If you can show me a clear pattern of female medical professionals abusing male patients, I’ll be with you on this one.

I swear, if I have to explain this to another person I’m going to lose it. I. Am. Not. Advocating. This. Policy. If you actually read the article, that’s a direct quote from the administration of the facility. I am critiquing this policy.

That’s great. I’m saying that this policy of men being monitored by women is shitty. 

I got the impression that you’re putting words in my mouth because you’re putting things I did not say in quotations as though I did say them.

I mean, you show me a pattern of female medical professionals abusing male patients and I’m with you.

Thank you! You and yours, as well.

Yeah I was on monthly lupron shots - they basically put your system into menopause until you come off it. It’s meant to preserve fertility through chemotherapy, but it does make you infertile while you’re on it.

So these visitors should be monitored too?

I mean, it was medically impossible for me to be pregnant too, but they checked anyway. I can see why they’d assume, but you’d think they’d want to cover their bases just as they did with me. (Also, out of curiosity, why a “chubby” 10 year old? Just an odd phrase to use.)

Men like this don’t just wake up and start raping one day. Often they test boundaries and, if they can get away with less damaging (but still shitty!) behavior, they’ll keep pushing until they hit a boundary someone won’t let them cross. I’m asking men to set those boundaries sooner. I’ll grant that you won’t prevent…

As I said, it was a rhetorical question. I’m not actually suggesting they don’t hire men. I’m saying that hiring them ends up being a liability when they have to be monitored. What’s cheaper, having a male employee plus a female chaperone, or just a female employee? Just from a hypothetical point of view, one is…

Not always. Plenty of people who have had strokes or traumatic brain injuries end up in nursing homes if they cannot take care of themselves. It’s not just for the elderly.

But that’s the policy in many settings, especially healthcare settings. The vast majority of male gynecologists, for example, don’t see patients without a woman present in the room. I’m not suggesting this policy, I’m criticizing it.