Did I miss something? Who’s saying he can’t make art? Genuinely confused.

Exactly! Let’s also support the women who’s careers were derailed by this! Who’s waxing philosophic about their artistic potential?

Did I miss something? Who’s saying he can’t make art?

Here’s the thing - no one has proposed that these men go to jail or get shipped off to Siberia or any other hyperbolic response (with the exception of men who have actually done something against the law). No one is proposing that they should never again work in their chosen fields, in this case as artists. Of course…

I’ll echo Elbe on your first point - and as for the parents, we care because the kid got the gun at home. His parents are also responsible for this.

None of the activists I know are advocating for race- or gender-blindness - ever. The only way to truly address these issues is to understand them in the context of our culture. If, at some point, we reach some kind of “true equality” or whatever, it’ll still be important to recognize the history of these movements…

Someone up thread said (and I’ll echo) that often academics who have their work published are less likely change their names upon marriage, regardless of sex, because it messes up their publication record.

I mean - if they’re both kind of messy why not just let people choose for themselves?

Yup - my boyfriend plans to change his last name to mine when we get married. His dad was, at best, a giant disappointment and he feels nothing for him. My already-huge Italian family is always ready for more family members - and I’m my dad’s only kid. We also just kind of like the idea better for ideological reasons.

Seconding this!

My partner and I were long distance too! He came to visit and ended up staying forever, haha! That was just about a year ago. Best decision we ever made.

I’ll push back a bit on the “no interest” bit. If yo had no interest, you wouldn’t have commented.

It’s way more nuanced than that. Certain types of emotions are discouraged for boys, while others are actively encouraged. This causes boys who feel sad (an emotion that is discouraged) to channel that emotion into anger (the more encouraged emotion). Their anger is then legitimized as righteous and manly and true.…

Women’s emotions are emotions, men’s emotions are facts.

I’m also curious about how bad the problem is at Lyft. I stopped using Uber a while back - it’s (generally) more expensive than Lyft in my area and also in response to the whole debacle with the former CEO. But I imagine Lyft has similar issues.

Yeah, honestly, as someone with a food background, I’m not sure what other kinds of food you’d expect him to teach these men to make. A good grilled cheese, some salads, some side dishes - those are a really good place to start building confidence in the kitchen. You don’t have to worry about undercooking any meat -…

Feminists have been saying this about the theory of toxic masculinity since the term was invented. Anti-feminists have co-opted it and twisted the definition. We can only react to how they choose to frame this, of course, but they’re typically not people who can be reasoned with. We could throw the term out with the…

I do think there’s something to this, and I do think the way men are socialized is a huge factor in this, but I do think there’s some more nuance here, too. No doubt you are 100% correct in that people need to feel community to be well-adjusted and happy. Full stop.

I recognize these concerns, but I do think there’s more nuance to it. Women are raised to center the feelings and experiences of men. Men are raised with the same mindset. So when feminists demand a space to center their own feelings and experiences, they’re pushing back against the societal pressure that silences…

I also saw one about a sister. He was mad because she wouldn’t fix him up with her friends and said that she’s lucky he doesn’t take what he needs from her since she’s being so difficult.