A lot of women here are talking about how they assumed it couldn’t happen to them because they were so strong. It’s just not as simple as “not putting up with it.” It’s vastly more complicated than sheer force of will. I think that’s what most people are getting at when they say it can “happen to anyone.”

A person like you has a girlfriend?

The point wasn’t that there’s no way to have legal sex on the job, it was that having sex, unlike say, shooting someone, can never be part of an officer’s duties.

Then your concerns were addressed. Writers fuck up sometimes and have to correct themselves. They did, it’s over.

I’m not sure you read the article thoroughly, in that case. The article seems to disagree with Carson’s line of thinking on this subject - not how he handled the questioner. Of course Carson is allowed to have a wrong opinion, but others are allowed to share their opinion of that opinion. Just because someone says “I…

If it’s pointless anyway, why shouldn’t he ask? If it’s pointless, what difference does it make?

I’m going to be getting my Master’s in Library Science with a concentration in archives management starting in August. These guys are living the dream. That’s what’s so great about being a librarian - you get to work on projects that interest you.

When their religion bleeds into their politics, it isn’t just religion anymore. It becomes a matter of policy and that makes it every voter’s business.

If he’s running for public office, he has to be able to support his opinions against people who disagree with him. If he can’t defend his position, then maybe he shouldn’t have that position in the first place.

That’s really just one example, though. All I was saying is that it’s far more complicated than assigning just one category to each display of oppression. It can be both gender and race. It can be both gender and ability status. Also, just because those black women would have been safer as white women than black men…

It’s not that black, disabled, LGBT, poor, or otherwise marginalized women’s gender doesn’t matter - it just adds another layer of potential for discrimination. A wealthy white woman is still oppressed by patriarchy, but a Native American bisexual woman is oppressed in other ways, too. It isn’t that her gender isn’t a…

So those are two male robins, right? They both have the red breast. Female robins are all brown so looks like Mama Robin there is in drag. Congrats to the C19 for being so progressive!

So when one of their own does well, they’re ready to admit they’re a team and networking is so important and all that - but when one of their own behaves badly, it’s about “self-governance.”

I agree with you - for some people there is some level of choice involved. Others, though, genuinely have not felt any other way since they were born. We really don’t know enough about how gender works to confirm it one way or the other. I don’t mean to say that some people are born with their gender identity, I just…

When he insisted women couldn’t handle gore, all I could think of was this:

See, here’s the thing: we’re animals, for sure, but we’re also human. That means we have reasoning that allows us to change our social interactions. If all we had was our “instincts” you’d never see a woman who wanted to, say, fix cars - or a man who wanted to learn to sew. You said it yourself: how we’re raised has a…

I’m sorry if my tone is short or something. I think I’m just tired of having to explain these things. Women have been saying these things for decades now. We can’t seem to make men listen. I appreciate that you’re trying, I really do. Maybe you could teach some other men to question their behavior, too.

I get what you’re saying, but it cannot be the sole responsibility of women to teach all the men around them how to behave properly. Men have to take the initiative to seek out information in a respectful way. And, if they accidentally say or do something out of line (which happens, we’re all human), they should…

I appreciate your effort, I just didn’t appreciate your excuses. I realize that trying to unlearn this kind of privilege is tough, and that’s why I appreciate you trying. Just be careful of these excuses - they’re too easy to fall back on.

Or men could just stop behaving in ways they know are inappropriate. It’s not much to ask for, propriety at work.