I said in reply to a comment a bit further up: sometimes the whole “I’m useless at it anyway, so you should just do it” tends to feel an awful lot like manipulation. It’s not acceptable for them to slap us on our asses anymore, so they find other ways to try to demonstrate their power over us.

It’s even worse when you realize that, once you have it turned on and set up, you literally just put the document in and press a button. I think, sometimes, it’s like some kind of powerplay. “I could do this thing myself, but if I pretend to be terrible at it, I can manipulate you into doing it for me.”

It’s not a dress code. It’s not even a policy, according to the school board president. You can’t just make up these arbitrary rules on the spot and if the school board president doesn’t know of anything, it seems likely that there no such policy exists.

I've been frank about this before. I don't give blowjobs either. It's triggering for me and I simply don't do it. I do love receiving oral sex and I've never had a problem with guys not wanting to do it just because I don't return the favor. If, in theory, a guy demanded that I reciprocate, we wouldn't do either. It's…

If you really can't understand the difference between a widespread social problem that deals with how people are socialized differently based on gender and a "haha, we all think the same" statement, your understanding of this topic is not sophisticated enough to join this argument and it's not our job to teach you.

But like, you get paid regardless of how the people you help feel. If they feel you did a shitty job, you still get paid. If a server's customer feels they did a shitty job (whether or not they actually did a shitty job) they may not get paid enough to live.

A little. It's hard to know, because so little scientific research is available on the subject. I suppose, if we knew where it came from, it might be easier to avoid having people play out these fantasies in an abusive way.

1) No. You said, "name me a video game where a female protagonist is raped or a past rape is a major part of her backstory." You didn't ask for other games. Maybe you're clarifying that now, but you can't pretend that's what you asked for in the first place. Also, you said, "a video game." I gave you three.

Uh, Lara Croft survives an attempted rape during her "gritty" backstory. The scene is playable. What exactly happens if she fails?

Talking about them isn't trying to shut them out. It's just trying to understand them. Of course you can't control your sexual feelings, but you can still question them and try to understand what about a specific fetish does it for you. With regard to fetishes that, if played out in real life, would literally cause…

While it may not be depicted explicitly, that is usually the go-to backstory for a female character that has to be tough but vulnerable. It is a pretty convenient way to show vulnerability, I'll grant you that. But at this point, it's pretty overdone in all forms of media, not just games.

Of course it isn't, but it isn't censorship to think critically about this type of porn. You can ask questions and make arguments about a topic like this without necessarily shaming people who are into it.

Would you be able to show me that study? I'm actually taking a class on pornography and how it fits into culture right now and I'd like to pass it along to my professor if you're able to find it.

I've always thought you could tell a lot about people by the way they treat animals.

I mean, maybe if all of us had been around playing it together, it would have been better? It was really the nature of their reasoning that made me feel awful about it. I don't care much about what they said about me. I'm pretty content to be feared if they're incapable of respecting me. But they compared my friend…

Personally, I don't. I've played FMK with celebrities or fictional characters, but never people that I know. And maybe it would be better with them around? I don't know. They probably wouldn't have said that they couldn't fuck or marry my friend Julia because "she has a dog face" if she'd been around.

It would have been one thing if we were all there participating. But they deliberately waited until we weren't there so they could say some pretty shitty things. I don't care much about what was said about me, but they said that having sex with my friend Julia would be like having sex with a man based on her…

The kicker was that they had just complained that Connor couldn't have any intellectual discussions with them.

I've always thought it was meant to be played with people you didn't know, like celebrities. People you felt some degree of separation towards. I mean, obviously other people play differently, but some truly vile things were said about women that these guys were supposed to be friends with. Doesn't sit right with me,…