Personally, I don't. I've played FMK with celebrities or fictional characters, but never people that I know. And maybe it would be better with them around? I don't know. They probably wouldn't have said that they couldn't fuck or marry my friend Julia because "she has a dog face" if she'd been around.

It would have been one thing if we were all there participating. But they deliberately waited until we weren't there so they could say some pretty shitty things. I don't care much about what was said about me, but they said that having sex with my friend Julia would be like having sex with a man based on her…

The kicker was that they had just complained that Connor couldn't have any intellectual discussions with them.

I've always thought it was meant to be played with people you didn't know, like celebrities. People you felt some degree of separation towards. I mean, obviously other people play differently, but some truly vile things were said about women that these guys were supposed to be friends with. Doesn't sit right with me,…

Okay, so I'm thinking I need to start hanging out with new people. My best friend Connor remains wonderful, but the guys he lives with, as it turns out, are pretty horrible. They seemed like pretty cool guys for the most part. Maybe not as sensitive to certain subjects as you might hope, but still altogether decent.…

I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Even with the great strides we have made, there's still so much to be done. Now, instead of the "good" guys saying shitty things to women's faces, they just wait until they think they're among like-minded people.

It's mainly what he said was BDSM is not BDSM at all. So people think that what happens in the books is what happens in real life; they take his word for it. Which is wrong. There's no such thing as a submissive contract. You don't suspend people from ceilings with chains (unless you want to kill them). You don't tie…

The problem I have with it is that tastes change. The only contract that makes sense is one that says no one will do something their partner doesn't consent to.

I haven't. I'm just active in my local BDSM scene. I'm a college student and I'm actually hosting a discussion about BDSM later tonight as part of my school's LGBT club. The kicker is that the email sent out to the club said we'd be talking about "BDSM and 50 Shades of Grey." I wasn't planning on mentioning 50 Shades,…

That's understandable, and I don't think any criticism of the book has anything to do with women finding their sexual awakening. It's just that BDSM is portrayed so badly in these books that there's no way it can be considered an accurate representation.

Very true. I didn't mean to discount that aspect of it. You're absolutely right there.

No, that's not it at all. I can see why, on the surface, it may look like that, but no one is vilifying these women for having sexual desire that strays on the kinky side of things. It's sort of like if your best friend was really into this one type of chocolate, but she wanted to save some money so she bought some…

I don't think it's necessarily going to make people's already-healthy relationships turn into unhealthy ones, but I do think it feeds misconceptions about kink. That's why I'd demonize it - because it's contributing to a sexual practice that's already incredibly misunderstood.

Part of it is what's mentioned in the article, if you read it. Part of it, and this is more personal to me, is that it portrays BDSM in a pretty terrible way. Yes, maybe people will read it and then decide to do more research and find out that 50 Shades is not, in fact, about BDSM at all. But other people won't do…

Firstly, I'd like to say:

How could it be good? Like you have to just be trolling or something, and not even very well...

All sexualities are classifications of sexual, not romantic, attraction. Romantic attraction is something else altogether. I was mistaken in assuming pansexuality encompasses romantic attraction. Pansexuality just means sexual attraction to all genders. Bisexuality can mean sexual attraction to all genders, too, or…

Very true about romantic alignments.

Those definitions of bisexuality aren't accurate, though. The bisexual community has been using "the sexual attraction to the same and other genders" for decades now. For some reason, as much as we keep trying to explain that to people, it falls on deaf ears.

Bisexuality and pansexuality aren't the same thing, but bi doesn't mean binary. I think this article doesn't do bisexuality any favors in assuming that's what it means. The bisexual community has been using the definition "the sexual attraction to the same and other genders" for decades now. So it can mean your gender…