Gotta send a quick love letter to my last boyfriend, who would have been 23 on Monday. He was so incredible in so many of ways, but in this context, he was so much better than I could have asked for. I think it was mainly that he just really liked keeping things tidy. I had to keep him from cleaning up after our…

My grandfather, before he married my grandmother, had his mother teach my grandma how to cook authentic Italian food, exactly the way she made it, so he could keep eating her cooking after they were married. My grandma was German and had never so much as thought about marinara sauce or any of that stuff before she met…

The Bible and Torah have rape (child rape included!) and other atrocities aplenty as well. The god in the Torah (or first five books of the old testament for Christians) is a murderous asshole. Parts of the new testament advocate rape and beatings and murder, too. Does that make Christianity and Judaism evil?

Just the way that all KKK members or Christian cult members are Christian, extremists are not representative of their entire religious group. Also, while religion can and does shape culture, often it's only a pawn in a larger scheme for power. For example, let's say there was a guy who decided to start a Christian…

A better analogy would be if someone couldn't return to the US because the KKK threatened to kill them. It's not the country that hates her, it's the Taliban.

The vast majority of rapes are not like that trope. Those are just the facts.

You're buying into the idea that all rapists are psychopaths. Most of them are trusted friends of their victims - even family members. In order to protect ourselves completely we'd have to be hermits.

I'd say that his arguments had to be logically inconsistent because there's no logical way to be a racist or a sexist.

It's not a phobia. It's a trigger. There's a difference. Having a dick inside me is fine. Touching one with my hands is fine. Putting one in my mouth can trigger flashbacks, panic attacks, etc. If I were with someone who had a similar trigger, I'd be understanding. I wouldn't pressure them to get help either (although…

Okay, so I get this reaction a lot, and I generally have to go into excruciating detail about why I do not perform oral sex on men (which is actually pretty horrific and I don't like reliving it), but I think I'm going to save it this time.

I do not give oral sex to men. It is a major trigger for me and I just won't do it. If that means a guy doesn't want to go down on me since it's not a reciprocal, that's fine (although I've never had this issue). But I just don't. I've had guys get all upset about it, and I get it's frustrating for them, but jeez, I…

Never understood the "chicks dig musicians" thing. My dad plays guitar so guys who play remind me of him. Not sexy. Although it must work for my mom because she married my dad and then remarried another guitar player when they divorced.

There are two types of people in the world, those who think that farts are funny and liars.

No one here would dispute those facts...except maybe MRAs. The unfortunate thing with that movement is that it stopped being about raising awareness for men's issues (in regards to prostate health and social constraints) and started being about reinforcing these shitty gender roles that hurt all of us. That's why it's…

Have you ever seen such a punchable face? Ugh. The smirk, too.

You do see the logical fallacy in blaming all women for your experiences with the ones you've chosen to sleep with, right?

So what do I have to do to be against it in private? Demand that my boyfriend restore his foreskin that was removed without his consent? Or do we continue to raise awareness about the practice and its futility? Or should I keep having conversations with my boyfriend about it? Keep trying to understand and validate his…

Yup. the conversations I've had with my boyfriend about this issue and others regarding his body and his experiences as a man are just imaginary. As fake as the similar conversations we've had about my experiences as a woman. Almost as though we're trying to understand each other as human beings. Unthinkable!

Yeah, we have no idea about circumcision. Despite the vast numbers of feminists who are against it, myself included. Good god, if you're going to troll at least have the decency to be good at it.

Yeah, because your boner is the only one in the world and I can't possibly have a relationship with a man who isn't you. And there couldn't possibly be a man who I happen to be in a relationship with who also treats me like a human being instead of a series of pleasurable holes. And I couldn't possibly have hot, kinky…