If you look at the other linked article, it's an illustrated diagram of genitalia, not of bondage. The illustrations are about what happens to a body when aroused.

Of course you'd include that it's fine not to masturbate. But you should also say that it's healthy and safe if you do.

Yup! When the movie Madeline came out, there's a part where the bad guy ties the boy character up in a van or something. I remember seeing him bound and being like, "Hmmm..." even at 7-8 years old.

But if you're going to talk about sex, you have to talk about masturbation (most kids do it - even little children 3 and under do it without knowing what it is). And if you're going to talk about masturbation, you have to talk about fantasy. Kids should know that it's normal and that it can be a healthy part of sexual…

I've said it a million times today. Think about it for a second. If you're teaching about sex, you have to cover masturbation. If you're teaching about masturbation, you should mention that fantasy is a perfectly normal and healthy part of it. It's a paragraph, not a how-to shibari manual.

Should it be mysterious, though? Kids should know how their own bodies work. Lots of parents don't want to give that information to their kids, and if they don't learn, there's a lot of shame about it.

If you're going to talk about sex, you have to talk about masturbation. If you're going to talk about masturbation, you have to talk about fantasy. If people are too squeamish to talk about this with their children, the kids should have access to the information elsewhere - where the information is accurate (not porn).

I explained this in another comment, but I'll just give you the highlights. I had kinky inclinations as a kid - starting about when I was 13-14. My mom found out a couple years later and thought it could never be part of healthy sexual experimentation, so she made me go to counseling. The counselor set me straight…

I think there's a place for fantasy at the table when talking about basic sexuality. Sure, we need anatomy down first, but after that, I think discussion of masturbation and, as a result, fantasy, is important. I'm older and more informed now, but I had kinky inclinations at 14. I just thought I was weird and that no…

Genuinely curious. If it's not genetic and is just a matter of how you're raised in the first few years of life, what particular thing causes it? It seems that if it's wholly based on the way a child is treated in the first years of life, a pattern would emerge that would trace homosexuality to a type of event, a…

You shouldn't need a paycheck from anywhere to try to spread this kind of information. I see that further down you shared the links. Thank you for that. If you're still opposed to sending them to tips@jezebel.com, I will. Or maybe we both should. If lots of people tip about it, they're more likely to write about it.

I rock a strap-on for a good portion of sexytimes, and if the harness covers my grody stained ones, they can stay on. Keeping some of my clothes on can be kind of fun anyway - for that "I'm covered and he's naked" part of the power dynamic. The Boy doesn't even notice.

You didn't even address my point - it's still false equivalence.

The problem with that logic is that you're taking into account motive for murder - there's no "acceptable" motive for rape. You don't rape someone in self defense. You don't rape someone when you accidentally hit them with your car. Again, false equivalence.

I had a coworker when I was working for a store that rhymes with Schmear Won Dimports who tried to call in sick. He had the flu. Our manager told him he had to come in and help with a load of merchandise that was coming in. That meant moving heavy pieces of furniture off a truck and into the warehouse, then…

I wasn't really using it here as a criticism of the behavior of men, rather as a criticism of the behavior of these women - "They're not even pretending to be the woman they want to be, they're pretending to be the woman a man wants them to be."

This quote from Gone Girl comes in handy so often that it's beginning to depress me.

The universities are the ones who want to deal with this stuff in-house. That's why they have disciplinary offices on campuses. They set them up long before any of this Title IX stuff began and no one forced them to do it. They have to be prepared for these and other potential crimes on campus. If they don't want to…

Then if the school wants to be the one who deals with these cases, they should have investigated. No matter the outcome, whether or not you believe that these girls were assaulted, the cases were not handled correctly, and the school should be held accountable.

I'm in a brand new LDR, and everything seems to be going pretty well so far. He's not too far away - I live in Western New York (Rochester area) and he's in Long Island, but for two college students, getting back and forth to see each other a lot is hard. We, in some strange coincidence, both chose the same grad…