Yup. I completely understand now. Again, I apologize.

I dunno. Just seems like common sense to me. I do wish more people behaved this way, but like, what can you do?

If you've read my other comments, you'll see that I admitted fault about this whole thing and apologized. I can't figure out how to edit my original post to reflect that I was ignorant and myopic about this whole thing, but I did elsewhere.

I realize that now. Intentions don't matter. I was ignorant and myopic about this whole thing. I can't figure out how to edit my post to reflect that, but I replied to my own post to apologize. We all fuck up sometimes. Better to admit it, apologize, and do better next time, right?

I've realized, since posting this, that I was short-sighted and ignorant about a lot of things. I apologized in other posts, but (maybe because I'm dumb) I can't seem to figure out how to edit my original post to reflect that. Sorry again!

Hi guys, I fucked up big time with my other post and wanted to apologize. Thanks for setting me straight, really. Nobody's perfect, and we all screw up sometimes. Best to admit it, apologize, and do better next time, right? That's what I love about Jezebel; we're always learning from each other.

I didn't consider several parts of this argument. Thanks, everyone, for enlightening me. Sorry if I couldn't respond directly to you, or if I said something that was insensitive. I really do apologize.

No, I don't think it's the duty of the infertile to adopt. I said many times in my original comment that I wasn't trying to shame anyone for their choices. I also didn't consider other parts of this process and, if you read my other comments, have agreed that it was short-sighted to do so.

Good point. I hadn't considered that.

All good points.

Good point.

I'm 21 and a college student. My plan is to become a foster parent when I have a stable job (likely after grad school) and a good home. After that, I'd like to adopt.

Good point. As I said, I didn't mean to shame anyone for their choices, it's just my personal take on it.

Like I said, I didn't mean to shame anyone's choices. As I said, it's my personal take on it. I don't hold anyone else to my personal opinions. That's why they're my opinions not yours.

Is adoption not a thing anymore? I mean, yeah, I get it, you want babies that look like you, but come on. I dunno. I try not to shame women's choices, but there are so, so many children in the adoption and foster care system. The system itself is broken. But the way to fix it isn't to ignore it by having your own…

I really may take you up on it. I have a pretty good support system in place at the moment. My best friend is awesome. But he, as I'm typing this, is on a date with a super nice guy right now and it's very likely that they'll be in a relationship this time next month. I'm sure he wouldn't mind hanging out with me on…

Thanks, that's awfully sweet of you.

I'm an atheist too. It's always weird what repression does to people. I can't imagine feeling shame after sex. Must have been horrible for her.

Haha, right? I like going down on women, too. I don't actually give blowjobs...not like a dominance thing, just something I can't do. But yeah. Cunnilingus, giving or receiving, will always be awesome.

Yeah, I'm towards the light end of the pain spectrum myself. Honestly, I'm curious about some of the heavier things, but I'm not really willing to try them. I'm protective of the submissive guys I'm with. I would be too scared I'd hurt them for real.